Presence 53: I am heeding the Heart’s prayer

So the Power of a Positive No book (William Ury) is spot on for me. It states the three ‘A traps’ for not saying no: accommodating, avoiding, attacking. Yep… Those resonate. So I’m going to pick up the No sandwich Ury talks about: “Yes! No. Yes?

I want to pick up the last part of TPP’s Week 8… in which MB suddenly (as far as I recall) introduces prayer. Beautifully. And it’s a good reminder for me…..

There is no awareness of peace without authentic forgiveness, and there is no authentic forgiveness until we integrate the resonance that arises in us when we place our attention on those who still anger us.

Prayer is the tool for neutralizing arrogance and regaining an awareness of peace. Arrogant people won’t pray for help in this regard. Let’s therefore pray for the strength, compassion, and emotional maturity to be able to truly perceive our predicament. Let’s pray for the capacity to forgive ourselves, so we too may be forgiven for our hurting of others, and so we too may have the capacity to forgive others authentically. Let’s pray to be shown the opposite of arrogance, which is humility.

Only through prayer do we realize that the people in our experience we have chosen to condemn and punish by withholding our forgiveness are our saviors in disguise.

Forgiveness can’t be forced. Neither can it be accomplished mechanically because it’s “the right thing to do.” This is why we humbly get down on our knees and ask whatever we understand our source to be to assist us in this matter.

It doesn’t matter what faith we hold: prayer is prayer. By asking for assistance in this humbling manner, we dismantle the fortress of arrogance and neutralize the venom of anger. Humility extinguishes arrogance. Only arrogance renders us unwilling to pray and ask for forgiveness.

THIS CONCLUDES WEEK EIGHT‘ TPP p210

Tell me more about prayer today…

Or rather… May I learn about prayer again today. And every day.

There are two types of prayer. Prayer from the Heart and prayer from the Head. The latter is the type that drains your tanker; the former is the type that fills it. Head prayer is a shopping list, an order, a deviation from responsibility. Heart prayer is an articulation of the soul’s desire and the spirit’s free will. In Heart prayer the Head is educated as to the will of the inner being… if the Head can learn to be still and humble enough to listen to the prayer of the Heart. In truth, the Heart is in prayer all day long. A first port of call for learning about true prayer is simply to practise stilling the Head (mind) long enough for it to be able to tune into and listen to the Heart’s constant still, small voice. Sweet, no? 

What is my heart praying for right now?

Listen. What do you hear? 

Golly. It seemed to be worried about my driving today. I’m picking up our new car – a gift from my darling sister – and collecting my beloved ASV and bringing her home for the first time since Sept. I have barely driven since Sept…

And so what is the Heart’s prayer? 

I think it is this: May I drive with care and consideration today. May I call on the protection of the angels of the heavens and of the roads. May I be blessed with good judgement today. May we be looked after at all times. 

Beautiful. Listen again. 

Oh dear… the Heart is wary of Covid as I travel by train to London and then mix with others….

And so what is the Heart’s prayer? 

I think it is this: May I be held in complete and perfect health today. May my presence bring love and healing with it. May all beings rise towards perfect health today. May London and the whole world be blessed by light, love and health. 

Beautiful. Listen again. 

‘We’re not going to be ready’. Here ‘we’ is ‘Me & my Heart’. I realise that a lot of my actual ANXIETY simply arises out of my Heart’s unheard concerns….. That means… I could offset a bunch of my anxiety by:

  • tuning into my heart at the beginning of each day and
  • listening to its concerns and
  • prioritising addressing those concerns, while also
  • humbly asking for assistance….

Heart knows best how to look after you.

Speak your Heart’s prayer again…

I think it is this: May I take care to ready myself without rush or procrastination. May I caretake myself kindly and gently today, so that I feel reassured, ready, complete and confident of the steps ahead. May I be ready early. 

Beautiful. Now this is Unconditional Self Love.

You are ready for the Presence Process Week 9: 

WEEK 9

(Activate with Third Water Session)

Our Conscious Response for the Next Seven Days is:

“I LOVE MYSELF UNCONDITIONALLY”

Blending the Positive No, with the Heart’s Prayer (the Positive Yes), you are discovering new ways to practise Unconditional Self Love. There is real progress here.

I had a little meltdown in the shops yesterday… 🙁

You had been ignoring your Heart’s Prayer…

Aha….

Heed the Heart’s Prayer. Act upon it as if it were your Wise Guide leading you out of the magical deep dark forest (because it is). Trust its guidance with all your might. Bend your mind (Head) to drop its wild ravings, and accept the wisdom of the Heart’s Prayer. Train your Head to stop, to listen, to reset the compass not according to the Head’s Fearful Thinking, but to the sweet, soft, intuitive, wise, caring, gentle, all-knowing, disarmingly brilliant Heart’s Prayer. 

Thank you. <3

I am heeding the Heart’s prayer

#May_I……  #May_We……

 

 

Presence 52: I am discovering unconditional self-love… through practising saying a positive No

These are a few of the things I am learning about Unconditional Love:

  • When you consistently grant yourself Unconditional Love, your need to ask it of others diminishes. And you are freed up to offer Unconditional Love more than to seek or demand it.
  • Nothing gives Unconditional Love to our inner child more than sitting with our feelings – feeling the feels, as we breathe, in Present Moment Awareness – without judgement, interruption or fixing. Merely being able to sit unconditionally watching what’s going on in our emotional landscape, is an act of self-compassion and self-love.
  • Michael Brown is EXCELLENT on why we shouldn’t judge our parents – but rather offer them the unconditional love they didn’t have:
    • ‘Our parents were children once too. When we look at a parent through the eyes of present moment awareness, we see a child who, like us, was plunged fearfully into this conditional world. This child, like the hurting aspect of the child self within us, seeks to be loved unconditionally. Are our parents responsible for energetically photocopying behavior that arises in them through their experience of childhood imprinting? How does holding onto anger benefit us more than making the compassionate choice to recognize the error in our perception? Judgment is a lack of clarity and a virus that infects our perception. Judgment on all levels is arrogance. Judgment is also a double standard. On the one hand it lifts us up to appear superior, while on the other it insists everyone behave exactly like us and admonishes those who don’t. However, the most damaging consequence of judgment is that we identify ourselves and others by the experience we are having, instead of by the shared Presence we authentically are. The bottom line is that, through judgment, we blame others for a predicament we all share. Therefore, let’s intend to begin unraveling this perceptual mayhem by forgiving our parents and blessing them with the unconditional love we wish we had received from them as children. (TPP 206/7)
  • Michael Brown is revelatory and revolutionary on unconditionally loving ourselves – and shows how it is the path to reaching peace:
    • Loving unconditionally is the greatest service we render to humanity. Loving ourselves unconditionally is how we place a breath of fresh air in the depths of the ocean. Our journey into uncovering the nature of this great mystery called love starts with being unconditional toward ourselves by feeling what we are authentically feeling without judging the experience in any way, and without trying to fix, change, understand, heal, or transform it. Being willing to integrate our own discomfort – to perceive it as valid and hence required, and behaving toward it accordingly – is the root of experiencing forgiveness and realizing peace. By genuinely forgiving ourselves for the behavior that emanates from our imprinted predicament, we automatically forgive the world. Beyond the experience of forgiveness is our return to an awareness of what peace really is. Realizing peace through forgiveness is in our hands. It has nothing to do with “the other.”’ TPP p208

Today in my meditation, I sat with the feelings in my heart, and just watched and loved them. My heart had a lot to say! Imagine if I’d started my day without listening to that! How unkind. How oblivious to the central, sweet barometer of my being. I didn’t try to fix or problem-solve or change those feelings. But as I let them be heard, and therefore integrated, they did soften. I felt the act of self-compassion in just ‘authentically feeling without judging the experience in any way’. And a few of Matt Kahn’s “I love yous” didn’t go amiss. 

You sensed the word ‘predicament’ today? This is the key for the next step. The human predicament (arrive – get emotionally imprinted – spend a life time integrating the emotions and/or creating drama to avoid the same – depart) is also the human opportunity.

Opportunities are for the seizing. SEIZE the opportunity to complete the cycle, like this: 

  1. arrive
  2. get emotionally imprinted
  3. spend a life time integrating the emotions and/or creating drama to avoid the same
  4. discover unconditional self-love
  5. offer unconditional love to others – and thereby help recalibrate the balance
  6. depart

We invite you to practise Step 4: ‘discover unconditional self-love’

We invite you to make Step 4 a special interest. 

Ok. Sounds like a good practice. How?

DUSLing (discovering unconditional self-love) is a movement that starts …[Time for the day. Pick up tomorrow]

Ok. Thank you. May I download much about DUSLing today. Amen.

[Next Day]

DUSLing (discovering unconditional self-love) is a movement that starts with internal peace. All the unravelling of your ‘Overstimulated Nervous System’ – via qigong, walks, QT, routines, the love and fun with G., focussing on your job satisfaction – is work towards settling into internal peace. From the place of Internal Peace, you do the work of DUSLing 

Is DUSLing proactive (eg. I do things for myself?) or a state (eg. I am able to sit in PMA without judgement, integrating what arises?).

It’s a proactive state. Think of us. We love you unconditionally. We are always here and available to you, as wise counsel. But we are not jumping at you, or offering you more than you need. We are responsive – and ever available on ‘stand-by’. We trust you to know how best to serve yourself most of the time. That is why we’re not tripping over ourselves to intervene. 

Sometimes, I wish you would.

You can always ask more. 

And then?

And then you get the response you request. 

Please can you make me incredibly proficient at emails and business admin?

Of course! Thank you for asking. 

There. That was an act of USL towards myself.

Asking for the help you need? Absolutely. 

Ok. As an act of DUSLing, I would like Your help to rise up the Upward Spiral of the Emotional Guidance Scale. With wisdom, with trust, with openness to learning new thought patterns.

And if we told you that this is already on the menu for you, would you baulk? 

No. I don’t think so…

As you go about your DUSLing, you’ll know how successful you are being by the degree to which you rise up that EGS. In fact, there is no other outcome to speak of…. except all that which flows to you as you align with your highest vibration. 

So… DUSLing brings us up the EGS and thus raises our vibration, which opens us to all the good available to us..?

Sweet soul of our hearts, as you genuinely put yourself at the epicentre of your immense and unfathomable LOVE, you will spiral up the vibrational scale like a bird soaring on the warm breezes of summer. 

I’m gonna need to learn to say No…. right?

Yes! Your book on The Power of A Positive No arrived yesterday. Bust it open!

Also, today I read in TPP about saying No..without judgement:

“At this point in our journey through The Presence Process, it’s beneficial to honestly ask ourselves: “How do we treat those in the world who ask us for unconditional love in the only way they know how?” ….. Discernment requires us to say “no” to those who would, through the impact of their imprinting, hurt us. Discernment requires us to draw a line in the sand and make ourselves clearly heard if others disrespect our choices. However, even when saying “no” to another because of their destructive impulses, we still don’t have to render judgment on them. We are able to take care of ourselves without confusing their behavior with their identity. Saying “no” as a reaction is the pushing away of another. Saying “no” as a response is a movement toward ourselves.” The Presence Process by Michael Brown p209 (Week 8)

I am discovering unconditional self-love… through practising saying a positive No