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Create 88: I am enJOYing myself!

Yesterday, was day 2 of a big training delivery I was part of. At the start of another v early day, I didn’t have time for a dialogue, so asked you – “Help me set an intention for the day ahead?” You said:

To: enJOY. Bring joy. ENjoy….

It was the perfect message, and it changed the way I approached the day.

With ‘enJOYment’ as my intention for the day:

  • I felt less self-conscious about my ‘performance’ as a trainer
  • I was more focussed on sparking joy (and self-confidence) in the participants than on impressing or ‘educating’ them
  • I was readier to lean into the fun of each moment – and people went along with me.
  • I saw people smiling..!
  • I had my attention laser tuned into ‘what brings joy here?’
  • It was fun to watch participants get joy out of their learning (and it’s a tough, challenging course!)
  • I found there was joy to be had anywhere, across the day
  • I felt the sense of joy viscerally – it wasn’t cerebral, it was felt… in my solar plexus!
  • I wasn’t waiting for an outside stimulus/conditions to ‘give’ me joy – rather I was primed for enJOYment at every turn, and thus allllll conditions revealed their soft, enJOYable underbelly…
  • I had gentle, grateful thoughts about my darling Dad who would always exhort me to ‘Enjoy it!’ before I went on stage to perform.

So tell me more about joy? I think of the Abraham-Hicks tapes with the jingle ‘Joy is the key!’.

…I found the whole song..! 🙂

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aU44fMjX1mw]

enJOYment is a muscle, an art, a practice, a way of life, an orientation, an intention, a decision, a choice, a priority selected, a determination, a gift received, an easy way, a relaxation into alignment… It truly is the EASEy way. And you may notice that not taking the EASEy way is a decision to slip to default brain mode, which is to say, threat-brain mode. Yuck! Why do that? It’s just so tough to get through a day in that mode! 

We get it, few of you were brought up to enJOY yourselves. In fact you were taught to prioritise the favour and approval of the fairly joy-less ‘others’ in your environs! The cross teachers, the frustrated parent, the confused employer. We get it. And now it’s flipsy time – as a priority. So, flipping onto the JOY side is a choice; it’s a switch to flip. It’s an intention to find the joy in everything. It’s also an invitation to stop what you’re doing if it’s not feeling enJOYable, and reorientate. 

Like… emails! Tell me how to make my emails enJOYable.

Oh, that’s EASEy. Intend to make your readers smile! It’s as EASEy as that. Visualise them, wherever they are and however they are, reading your email and feeling a smile come to their face. 

Ha. Sweet. I can do that.

Joy is one of those 360 degree states (as is hate, on the flipside) – the more you give the more you get. 

I’m guessing this is different to people-pleasing?

You’ve got it, starshine. Very different. You’re not seeking approval from people. You’re talking to their 6 year old within, who longs to smile at everything – and who gets relief from smiling – and then is better able to handle the ‘rigmaroles’ of adult life. Got it? 

Got it. I like it. Sounds fun. So it’s about enJOYing and bringing JOY… and seeking enJOYment…

It’s about embodying enJOYment, and inviting people to see life as you’re seeing it – through the eyes of Source. As you enJOY it, so will others. It’s a virtuous circle in which everyone brings each other’s frequency up a notch. Get it? 

Aha. Yes.

So keep it simple. As your dear father says: “EnJOY it!”

I am enJOYing it {myself, my day, the sunshine, the work, the emails, my breakfast, your company, my feelings, my wisdom, viscerally, in my body, tuning in…}!

I am enJOYing myself

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Ooh. Decided to read one para of Sensitive is the new strong before starting my day. Look! ?

Channelling the sixth sense into enJOYment is the new way. <3

https://open.spotify.com/user/spotify/playlist/37i9dQZF1DZ06evO1Tijwi?si=H3CLr9KGSci8PVj5oZHRJg

My inner being loves this music. My ego thinks it’s cheesy and childish. Sayonara, ego. You have no, and I mean NO, sense of actual Joy. Adios.

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Day notes ?:

 

I am enJOYing my Self:

  1. Running my own business
  2. Doing life ‘my way’
  3. Helping people smile and ‘feel better’
  4. Feeling good about myself
  5. Loving my ‘rest day’ today
  6. Doing what I want
  7. Not seeking permission from anyone
  8. Having fun
  9. In my PJs!
  10. Learning new things
  11. Getting out of my comfort zone!
  12. Tidying up spaces and simplifying
  13. Feeling good in my solar plexus
  14. Using my solar plexus as my navigator (instead of using my ‘thoughts’ as my navigator)
  15. Relaxing into that solar plexus re-lax, rest, opening
  16. Sensing it all Clicking In To Place
  17. Learning how to navigate Earth in 2021!
  18. Basking in the moment
  19. Focussing on that which brings JOY and relief and a smile
  20. … all day long…
  21. … because the SoulSelf is inherently, easily, 24/7, effortlessly, JOYful… so when I’m enJOYing myself, I’m aligned with my SoulSelf-InnerBeing
      1. (vs being aligned with my Ego with is 24/7: {on the verge of flipsying to} fearful, joyless, angry, threatened… })
      2. It’s flipsy time from HumanSelf to SoulSelf orientation!
      3. “I am enJOYing myself; we are enJOYing ourselves!”
  22. “Let’s enJOY ourselves!” What a mantra for everything I do!!”
  23. Knowing that we {the empaths, lightworkers, HSPs, starseeds – deemed odd by others who teased us for our experiences eg 11:11} are connecting with each other and ‘coming out’, more coherently than ever before, without heaviness, with ease and joy.
  24. Because to ‘enJOY ourselves’ means to increase the JOY quotient in you/me/us/the collective! Awesome!
  25. If I’m an empath (as Anita Moorjani indicates) then I can use my sixth sense either a) to intuit and absorb fear, anger, grief, pain, or far better, b) to sense, foment, induce, intuit, foster, magnify… JOY! Let’s flipsy from a) to b) and lock in the flipside filters for JOY. “Let’s enJOY ourselves!”
  26. Any movement along the spectrum of ‘No/less Joy’ to ‘Some/more Joy’ FEELS GOOD and relieving… and brings hope that things can improve. If I can help anyone along that spectrum even one inch, I’m doing my work – because they can do the rest of the journey towards joy… in time… No rush. We can be joy catalysts for each other. By our words, our love and our example.
  27. This is compassion – to empathically see where someone else is, but not ‘fall’ into their mood or frequency, but instead trust in the and hold the vision of their ‘feeling better’ (on the flipside)…. and then to take action in that direction, with our words, deeds or energetic intention.
  28. I can use my empathy to good if/as I hold the intention of compassion and say silently, from my SoulSelf to theirs:

“Let’s enJOY ourselves today.”

 

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This appeared to be the end of the Create Project because I suddenly felt impelled to start the (creative!) How To project… which is surely a sign that the Create Project helped me align with the part of me which was ready, ready, ready to create!

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Create 87: I am heading for my intuitive finish lines #StartFinishing;FeelBetter

In seeking to communicate empathically with people’s Soul Selves, I realised this:

  • The language of the Soul Self = the language of Love
  • When the Soul Self outweighs the Human Self in a person, you get an empath… and that can be hard for the person if they don’t recognise why they find human life so exhausting, draining, hurtful…
  • Though people may come at me in full, pained, fractured, binary Human Self mode, I don’t have to empathically absorb their pain or psychic ‘noise’. I can shield myself, and look only to their unmovingly steady-love-state, cheerily-loved-up Soul Self (even if, and/or especially when, they can’t do so themselves).
  • When I speak to the person’s Soul Self in the language of love, people melt…. (A dear colleague called me a ‘breath of fresh air’ when I quietly focussed on speaking only to her Soul Self!)
  • When I am less bound up by Human Self interactions, I have more scope and energy and attention to devote to:
    • Taking inspired action
    • Following the ‘good feeling thought’
    • Focussing on whatever makes me/us ‘feel better’
    • Seeing through the eyes of Source
    • Soothing myself
    • Watching everything ‘clicking into place’

{Pictures of Soul Self on a walk; in dialogue}

Assist me today, to feel settled and calm, please.

I’m hearing something about ‘starting and finishing’. Sounds good, and helpful.

Let’s read a little, to settle in. 

***Sensitive is the new Strong, by Anita Moorjani***

Ok, it was time  in the book to do the Empath Quiz, so I went to Anita’s website to do it: https://www.anitamoorjani.com/empath-quiz

Result: I scored 30/34 (and I actually answered no to a couple of questions I could have said yes to):

You’re a full-on empath. You are what I would call a mystic. You’re highly intuitive and can almost always tell when people are lying. You’re also a natural born healer. You have a deep love and appreciation for nature and unconsciously understand its healing effects.

You recognize the sacred expression of all beings. You are truly wise. And you have a wonderful ability to sway and change the moods, energies, atmospheres, and environments around you. You need to learn how to recognize and differentiate other people’s energy from your own. You feel the pain and suffering of the world on your shoulders and take it on as yours. Learning to use psychic/empathic meditation tools —loving yourself, accessing your own inner knowing, expressing gratitude, and connecting with the cosmic web of consciousness—will help. You also have a tendency to mirror other people and their energy. This means that you give up your energetic seniority (the power over your own energy) at the whim of the world’s changing winds (in other words, other people can control or influence you too much on an energy level). For example, if you’re feeling happy and content and a friend is feeling down, miserable, or fearful, you allow that mood to highjack your own—you take on their fears and sadness, giving those feelings precedence over your own. You would benefit from learning to control your own energy, and create stronger boundaries, which I discuss specifically in my new book “Sensitive is the New Strong”. [Chap 3 & 6]

Anita adds a meditation:

Sensitive is the New Strong, by Anita Moorjani (p31)

Now this learning is powerful for you, isn’t it? 

It is. I love Anita’s phrase ‘energetic seniority’ – she says, ‘you give up your energetic seniority (the power over your own energy) at the whim of the world’s changing winds (in other words, other people can control or influence you too much on an energy level)’. 

I will give you examples of the occasional porousness of my energetic field:

  • Yesterday I did the weekly shop – as I drove into town and saw all the people on the streets, I started crying; by the time I finished shopping and was heading out of the supermarket, I was sobbing my heart out
  • I accidentally asked my dear friend’s 7yo son on zoom, ‘What’s going on with your teeth?!’, thinking he was missing a front tooth. It turns out that actually since I last saw him, he’s developed a large gap between his front teeth… I felt so bad at picking out his appearance, I got self-violence tics for the next 4 days.
  • I’m floored by the violence in Gaza at the moment
  • I can’t even look at images of many of our politicians
  • My father’s medical treatment is unravelling me… to the point I’m not contacting him when I should… which is fricking ridiculous.
  • I’m trying to sell a course, and my concern over people’s feeling burdened/offended by my marketing is almost finishing me off…

So if ‘learning to control your own energy, and create stronger boundaries’ actually allows me to be more present to people, I will be glad. Especially as I think I may have become even more super-sensitised to people and other’s energies because of the year of lockdown.

The area we would like you to focus on today is this: 

COMPLETION. 

When you follow your intuition, you know what to START. You’ve reflected recently that getting, and feeling, prepared is essential for the success of a step. 

Your next realisation will be this: in order to grow in confidence, you must COMPLETE the projects your intuition leads you to start. In order to do this, you must assert your ENERGETIC SENIORITY (or ‘ENERGETIC SOVEREIGNTY’) over the parameters of the project.

In other words, once you START, you will need to ‘burn through’ the psychic noise that your action apparently generates in others, in order to reach COMPLETION. 

Why? Because this, this, this, dear friend, is the work of CREATIVITY. The START is key and crucial, but then the work (the war of art) is to Keep Going, until you COMPLETE. That is your contract with your creativity. 

Imagine swimming the channel. Yes, you must get in the water to START. But it’s not enough just to get your feet wet. You are going to need  to launch off powerfully and to take every WAVE as a welcome hurdle to cross, and not interpret it as a ‘setback’, or a hunch telling you to ‘wait and see’ or ‘don’t push through’. Nor should you wait to see if the wave overcomes you or ‘drowns’ you. In other words, you must start projects anticipating wave after wave after wave, and intend to stay ahead of the waves by powerful, destination-directed action! Remember teaching the girls to swim with the words, “Kick, kick, kick!” If you can get good at riding the waves, you’ll find the waves are actually working in your favour. It’s all about interpretation/intention (including segment intending), and the conscious redirection of the inherent energy of the wave, in your favour, and in service of your mission. 

Take the course you are selling. You’re mortified at the lack of response. You don’t realise that this sales path is the work available to you – you will connect with the Soul Selves of others as you genuinely reach out to people… on a personal note. That’s what they want… Connection. And yes, that means asserting your energetic seniority (for yourself, not ‘over them’) to be able to communicate fearlessly and fully. 

Your role is to start whatever project your intuition tells you to start, and then, to stop only when you’ve completed it.

Do to that you need to know what completion looks like. 

Eg. sell 16 tickets for x. Or get a positive response on y. Or complete a purchase of z. 

Dear friend of our hearts, when you start finishing, your life is going to change. To do this, you need not to be buffeted by the whim of the world’s changing winds but to set your own intuitive course, and navigate on through. 

As Anita says, intuition is a sixth sense. Our senses help us ‘navigate the world’ (p23). When we ditch, deny or switch off our navigation tools, what do we feel…?

Lost and confused.

Similarly, if we allow ourselves to be open to hearing the satnav voice of our own car, and also of the cars around us, which are heading for different destinations, we get confused… and in that situation it feels safer to pull over and stop, right? ie Paralysis.

So, having good energetic/empathic boundaries involves turning up the sound on our own satnav, and drowning out the satnav voices of the cars around us. That is how we get where we’re heading and complete our journey. And once we’ve completed one journey, lo and behold, we can set off on the next journey! How exciting and fun is that?! 

Compared to pulling over and sitting confused in a lay-by halfway to Party Town, it sounds pretty good.

I’ve got a few things I could finish. I sometimes call them ‘Goals’ and that’s horrid.

Exactly, if you say to yourself, I’ve started so I’ll finish, you are just powering through, acknowledging that powering through takes really good focus and energetic direction. It’s also about trusting that your original intuition was right and accurate, even if you can’t see that yet. This act of trusting that powering on through to get from A to B is the mystic work at hand – while not as you expected – will see you right. And you will grow to trust your Intuition, and have faith that, even though you can’t see the outcome it sees, you know its impulse is solid, sacred and life-giving. And you’ll learn to follow your Intuition willingly. My, life will be so fun! 

Make a list of ‘Things I’ve Started So I’ll Finish’, define completion, and run at powering through! The ultimate drama class ‘trust exercise’. It’s wildly fun and exciting if you play it fully and fearlessly! It’s all in, or not at all…! Or draaaggggggg your projects on for months if you really want to suck the joy out of them!

All options are available! 😀

SOULSELF PROjects: list of Things I’ve Intuitively Started and I’ll Power through to Finish:
  • QG training
    • Complete => certificate in hand
    • To get there => power through the curriculum
  • Getting to 9.5 stone
    • Complete => Photo of 133 pounds on scales – & new dresses to mark it
    • To get there => keep tracking, eg on the wall
  • Pitching DD 
    • Complete => Contract
    • To get there => spreadsheet of prospects and regular slot to send..
  • Selling M4M x 2 courses
    • Complete => 2 x full courses @ 16 + 24 participants
    • To get there => building daily connections with colleagues, using discount codes
  • Launching SoD
    • Complete => sellable courses on website
    • To get there => learn woo commerce

Hm, interesting question arises. Who will I piss off, disappoint, eyebrow-raise, confuse, mystify or surprise if I have success in completing x or y project? Yes, I see that’s in the mix for me… Interesting to work with…! Those considerations arise from the whim of the world’s changing winds that I need to use my energetic seniority to keep at bay… Good. All good learning.

Also, this is about overcoming the resistance of the perfectionist. As FB says: Better Done That Perfect.

Finish line = Fun. You’ll never know the power and brilliance and utter wisdom of your Intuition until you finish up on the projects it starts you on. This is where the Human Self gets to play its role as genius workhorse perfectly-placed and skilled to undertake the Soul Self’s strategic mission! 

Got it! Ty.

I am heading for my intuitive finish lines #COMPLETION

{#StartFinishing}
{I’ve started so I’ll finish}
{#FinishingIsTheNewFun}
{#CompleteTheChannelCrossing}
{Sensitive Intuition; Strong Boundaries}
{#PoweringThrough}

PS. As you #StartFinishing, you’ll start feeling the relief you’ve been seeking. That is how intuition works. Until you obey its will, you’ll feel out of sorts, stressed, tugged… Tough lesson to learn, but oh my, once you truly learn it… Everything is available to you, and your CREATIVITY can truly bloom, connecting you to your SoulSelf on a rolling timeline of fun and abundance. Wondrous! 

Remember, as an empath you’re highly tuned to the ‘other’. That is super and has its place. But your work is to do your work, and not let the whims of the other dominate. As you tune in more to your intuitive superpowers, you’ll be better able to prioritise the projects of your SoulSelf, even when you don’t know exactly where they’re heading. And even though your SoulSelf isn’t apparently summoning you yellingly like the energetically ‘demanding’ customer/client/colleague… you’ll learn to trust that, if you do the SoulSelf work before anything else, the relief will be powerful and life will be more wonderful. 

#StartFinishing;FeelBetter

Amen.

Creativity Craves Completion [CCC]
{=Heart / Intuition + SoulSelf}

Perfectionism Prizes Procrastination [PPP]
{=Head / Reason + HumanSelf}

ABC = Always Be Completing [ABC]

Start Finishing = Start [with a view always to] Finishing

Can you imagine if I made ‘Finishing’ a special interest…? 🙂 😮 <3

Empath +

  • Strong healthy energetic boundaries
  • Energetic sovereignty (and  not filibustered or diverted by others’ energy / empathic comms)
  • Heightened, connected intuition
  • Clear self-determination
  • Sense of mission
  • Special interest in finishing / completing intuitive projects

= > happy, accomplished, aligned, mission-orientated, relieved, confident, energised Empath.

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Create 86: I am connecting empathically with people’s soul selves

Truth be told, I found it hard to ‘ask questions of people’s higher selves’… to their faces at least. Well, I say to their faces… of course everything’s still via zoom or phone. But also, it was hard because I’m often in ‘teaching mode’ for training, or in facilitating mode for client work (I’ve been on pre-mediation meetings) – so I’m ‘leading’ conversations rather than in the full exploratory listening mode. But also, people POUR out stuff quite a lot…. My beloved Dad spoke in a stream of consciousness for 57 minutes on the phone with me (about his writing work) and then, bless him, said, “I have to stop talking. I think my head’s about to fall off…” and we said goodbye.

So what I’m saying is that sometimes, maybe, those questions are addressed to the person’s higher self… empathically? Telepathically? And/or, I respond to what I hear from their higher self, or soul self, empathically/telepathically.

Soul Self. What a beautiful term. 

Isn’t it? (It even alliterates 🙂 – a special favourite for me).

Is that what You are to me?

Exactly so, dear one. 

Hello Soul Self… whatever that means. 🙂 I’ve even changed the title of this blog. DoDs: conversations with my soul self.

Beautiful! 

Yesterday… I was training frontline staff in mental health conversations. One woman was struggling to participate – and had messaged me privately saying she was ‘gathering’ herself. It’s normal for the topic to unravel one or two people, as it brings up so much emotion. Anyway, in the last bit of the session, I talked about my autism – as the commissioner had said this team wanted to know about autism. As I did so, the woman switched her camera on… and tuned right it. I could see immediately she was on the spectrum… and this was all new and important and timely information for her. After the session, she stayed on and said, ‘I wonder… am I autistic?’ We had a beautiful chat. I felt afterwards, the whole session had been for her – and her son.

Was there a connection between my soul self and hers?

You ask an excellent question. And we will ask you one back. What do you think is the answer to your question? 

Hm, I think… I sense… Yes. As humans, we put out the intention to connect with each other on this plane, for soul learning, and it happens. I learn and am taught by new people every day.

I’m loving Sensitive is the new Strong by Anita Moorjani, and her teaching on how to thrive as an empath. She gave me words I could share with my training participant today. She’s giving me a framework for understanding WHY I get so frazzled. Basically, if others are upset, it affects me. Which is why I work so hard to make others not be upset around me. And which is why I’m such an effective trainer (happy audience or bust!) and mediator (I want them to feel relief!).

But also… now, I need to learn a few things if I’m going to thrive as en empath:

  • To take less ‘responsibility’ for others’ discomforts when it’s not my responsibility – and save my intuitive powers for when I’m asked to help.
  • To tune into the sixth sense Moorjani talks about, and as we’re discussing here, consciously... so I’m ahead of the wave of empathic knowing, not being driven or overwhelmed by it.
  • To accept that ‘fear films’ and ‘tv dramas’ are not good for my autonomic nervous system. ‘Feel-good’ media is literally going to make me feel good – and I need that ‘feel-good’ frequency like the desert needs the rain. So, get it.

What’s my message for today please?

Your work today is to connect empathically with people’s soul selves. 

Oh my word. I love it. Beautiful. May I learn and learn and learn. Please, angels of all peace, unity, love and light – connect me with my empathic knowing, and show me how to connect with the soul selves of those dear beings on my path today and every day. Amen.

I am connecting empathically with people’s soul selves