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Create 79: I am tuning into Feel Good FM (#FGfm says FYI!)

Just tuning in to Universal Consciousness FM...

You’ll know you’re tuned in when you Feel Good. In fact, Universal Consciousness FM and Feel Good FM are going out on almost exactly the same frequencies. 

Feel Good FM. I like the sound of it. So, care to tell me more about tuning into Feel Good FM?

We’re not exactly saying that FGfm is the Classic fm to UCfm‘s Radio 3, but we are saying that FeelGoodFM is more easily accessible than Universal Consciousness FM. 

Why is it more accessible?

FGfm involves tuning into those ‘Good Feeling Thoughts’ that we get when we are aligned with our Inner Being.  UCfm on the other hand, can feel a little etheric. It’s really good to tune into in periods of deep meditation and while on retreat – and you truly must find ways of spending time there once a year… 

Like on that retreat with Brad…

Yes. Or elsewhere according to your will.

Brad really broadcasts UCfm.

Then it sounds like you have your answer. Best not to think about it too much, but just follow your instinct. 

Ha! I just noticed: F.Y.I.!

FYI => Follow Your Instinct… (or intuition)

May I remember that every time I see FYI.

Well, as it happens, FYI is the tagline of FGfm. 

Is it?

Indeed! As we were saying, UCfm takes you into a deep space of inner cleansing and rebalancing, which so useful to do on retreat, once a year. FeelGoodFM is much more about the embodied daily experience of lining up with what feels good, following your instinct, acting on those impulses, following the joy... All those practices you have been working on in this project. 

This project: the Create Project. I set out to be creative, and follow my creative impulses. But I lost track of all the impulses, or burdened myself with lists of things to execute and follow up on later!

What you actually set out to do, was get in touch with the parts of you that lead on creativity, on a day to day basis. And that’s exactly what you’re doing by leaning into vibrational alignment.

You’ll see. Give it time. You’re making excellent progress.

And have you seen how much you are building your business, btw? You take it for granted… but you didn’t even notice you publicly launched the School of Dialogue last week when you posted your first course.

That was a huge step… but you’d aligned with it really effectively… so when you did it, it felt like a ‘gulp’ but not like ‘I’ve reached a summit!’ It felt like, the natural next step.

And that is what creativity is all about. Reaching out for the natural next step – via tuning into Feel Good FM, and Following Your Instincts. 

 

Feel Good FM

Where we say:

Follow Your Instincts! 

 

Today…

I am tuning into Feel Good FM (#FGfmSaysFYI!)

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Create 72: I am curious about the world according to my Inner Being

At the end of yesterday, having played beautifully with feeling chuffed (especially while delivering training and on my walk)…

…and also having put out a range of fires and kept plates spinning (including trauma-triggered MHFA participants x5; lots of admin; charged calls from NST; a late 1.5h sibs call on prepping for the NT summit in 2 days – while also driving ASV into town late; trying to arrange a covid-compliant kids’ get-together today before ASV goes back to uni tomorrow; apparently getting my third  ‘period’ in the last month)…

… I eventually lost my shit.

It was about 11pm, when I should already have been in bed way earlier and was massively over-stimulated. I got angry – really angry and triggered – at G over something he said fleetingly.

I like to think my stress signature style is ‘withdrawal and non-comms’ but actually when the shit hits the fan and my stress container runneth over, I lash out with words, on my nearest and dearest. And I guess I know this. G and I have worked with this, and we worked through it last night, but at the cost of some ‘battery burn’.

I woke at 5am again today with the unfairness and sadness and anticipatory grief of the JF situation. I tried to align with my inner being. Where was the bit of me that is always at peace, and relaxed, and positive, and adoring, and chuffed?

When are you going to put yourself first? That is how you will create a bond with your inner being. 

Like AH talk about teaching selfishness – but not in the way we typically think of selfishness…

Yes. ‘Putting yourself first’ means not hesitating to book that qigong retreat, not hesitating to market yourself confidently… 

I’m getting there. My VA is a good starting point. My routines, and limits on work each week.

This is not what we mean. We mean: when are you going to arrange your days so they are entirely based around being in tune with your inner being? 

Well, I don’t know. What would it take?

Playfulness; going under the radar; an ongoing dialogue throughout the day, in the now now now. This is a friendship which is just beginning and will grow, especially as you become more curious about the ‘permanent state of vibrational alignment’; and as you become more habitual about moulding, moulding, moulding in the image and likeness of the perspective on the world of your inner being. 

When I close my eyes for meditation, there is concern, pain, trauma… So I’m resistant to doing so, though I know I can/do burn through that dissonance to the peace below.

There are many other ways to align with your inner being. Over time you will gain the trust that all you need do is settle into the present moment to catch the scent of your inner being. Easy, easy, easy. And then you won’t let the ‘alternative tug boat’ pull you too far in the opposite direction of your inner being. You’ll know that, the second you get the stress/sadness/upset signal, you can tip yourself back towards vibrational alignment. You will be reminded to take any negative emotion as a signal that you have shifted away from the world your Inner Being inhabits. 

And to get back to that world…?

Settle in. Get curious about the ‘world according to your Inner Being’. 

Ok. Ty. I’ll do that. Amen.

I am curious about the world according to my Inner Being

#InnerBeingSays…

#LookingThroughTheEyesOfSource

#IBCurious

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Day Notes:

  • The IB is always scanning for the next thing to be uplifted or tickled or chuffed by and then rest attention on it, baskingly
  • I loved something AH said – we can see the drama of this world as a sitcom – and honestly, when I look at some of the more out there stuff in my world, at the mo (JF, certain colleagues), calling a sitcom is just right.  I can either see J as a character from a Stephen King story (yikes!) or better, as our own Hyacinth Bucket CBE. Isn’t this a funnier, softer, warmer perspective than the alternative?:

  • Yes, obviously we need to respond according to our own needs and principles, but let’s see those driven by ego as tragi-comic rather than evil or to be feared. Gentle compassion; healthy boundaries.

[Note: isn’t it extraordinary… NT as the great published-to-be… and FT was quietly getting published in the papers on a daily/weekly basis… and SEEING people and reflecting them out to the world via her art. Publish daily is good…. But not on me… on the clients…. and their brilliance… Capture “What my clients have taught me”…]

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Create 31: I am noting ‘sinner thoughts’, with a little lick of self-compassion

You are empowered to speak through the Eager Say So voice when you can differentiate between the mind ‘having the experience’ (ooh, aah, eek!) and the eternally peaceful, neutral, untouched, unwavering observer consciousness within you that can watch the rollercoaster mind. 

Imagine you are a parent, observing your young child who is on the mini-roller-coaster at the park. Your child is squealing with delight, terror, elation, horror, relief… at every twist and turn. You, on the ground, are able to observe this – and remain at peace. You have access to the knowledge that the child is having a manufactured experience. You can be moved and amused and empathetic… but you are not rushing to rip the child out of her seat. There is no need. You know that this ’emotional’ experience is wholesome learning for the child. 

So, you are saying, I can start to identify with the parent/observer consciousness more? And realise that my rollercoaster mind experience (“Ooh, aah, eek!”) is… ‘manufactured’?

Manufactured is a word that offends you because it sounds like we mean ‘conjured’ or ‘fake’. But we do mean manufactured. It’s manufactured on a closed  loop with your original broadcast. If you broadcast ‘rollercoaster’, you experience more of it. 

The more you can stand back as the observer, the less fuel you add to the rollercoaster mind. 

This is what Pema Chodron calls ‘unhooking’.

Man. Yes. In my rollercoaster mind’s dream I am currently in a hooked entanglement with a few individuals. Can I unhook from that dream?

Instantly. The key is to take your attention off those people, and onto your rollercoaster mind. You can then see the causal point is not those ‘others’, but your identification with the experience you are having with those others. This is GREAT NEWS! Why? Because you have no control whatsoever over ‘others’, but 100% control over your own power to unhook. 

By unhook, we largely mean, step off the rollercoaster. Or at the very least, be the parent watching the child on the rollercoaster. 

So I’d say: “Ah yes, I can see Rollercoaster Mind Me having an experience of wrestling with her guilt, her worry, her fear of it all going wrong. Interesting! I can see her desperately not wanting to say the thing that might hurt (eg to X or Y) but instead leaving them in the dark… far worse! I can see her not wanting to ask A or B, ‘Is this what you mean?’ and second guessing / psychic-ising instead… Interesting phenomena….”

Now, done with real self-parenting, the observing act will bring you self-compassion. You will wish to prevent and alleviate the suffering of the roller coaster you. 

So how? I thought the observer just observed, without judgement?

The Observer has the power to suggest EASE. 

Ah now here’s the interesting thing. Why are rollercoasters popular? Because as humans we LOVE variety, and contrast. It’s a catch 22. Get it all EASEd up, and we start feeling… BORED! Amiright? Where’s the sweet spot between peril/jeopardy/challenge/excitement and inner balance, ease, relief?

The sweet spot is called vibrational alignment. 

I am so, so keen to understand more about this.

MB is your most excellent teacher on this.

**Reads…**

p116. Original Sin. In sum, MB points out that the result of our childhood, and it’s fixation with mind, is that we emerge saying “I am a sinner”. Every time we perceive ourselves as such, we lose awareness of our vibrational essence.

So basically, what I’m inferring is that we can bring awareness to this. Do I basically have ‘I’m a sinner’ thoughts throughout the day? Yes! It’s actually endemic – in me, in us all. And it’s not just about saying, “I’m good enough” as a counter…

Um… That’s a good start. 

Ah, ok… I was going to say that it’s about bringing awareness to how much of a factor of life this ‘sinner thinking’ is.

You can use that awareness as a trigger for its opposite. 

So if I catch myself having some kind of ‘I’m a sinner’ thought, I counter it with ‘I’m not a sinner!’ or ‘I am good enough’??

Observing the mind’s thoughts non-judgementally is the great undoer. So, try just noting, ‘Ah, a sinner thought.’ Note how you condemn self, and other. Note the mind’s compulsion to condemn, self and other. Just note it. And then give yourself a little lick of self-compassion. 

A lick..!

A little lick. 🙂 It’s gotta be cute.

Haha. Ok!

Remember, sinner thoughts hurt. They come with a vibrational sting (or even a taser zap at times). [Hence plumptons. Maybe I should buy that book on chronic shame which looks at the neurobiology of shame…] So give yourself self-compassion for the sting/zap received in the moment of having the thought, but also for the underlying emotional imprinting which apparently is still perpetuating punishment and retribution upon you, all these years later.

Sweet child – the rollercoaster was meant to be fun, not traumatising. So yes, a little lick of self-compassion, because your life was always meant to be soft, sweet, succulent and juicy. 🙂 

Beautiful/ Revolutionary. Thank you. <3

I am noting ‘sinner thoughts’, with a little lick of self-compassion