Yesterday evening, (after a day of transmitting the warmth of a smile – it’s a beautiful practice), such sad news arrived that I can hardly process it.
My beloved brother and sister in law received the saddest news about their precious unborn little one… My heart aches and breaks for them.
Astonishingly, this tragic news came three days after our sister and brother in law lost their tiny unborn little one.
And, my heavens, 8 days after our beloved father’s diagnosis.
Oh Source of all goodness and peace, turn to this family, and grant us solace, comfort, rest…!
What is happening?? And how can I rally myself to be a presence of support and assistance?
Softly, dear one. Softly. Let that sorrow in, to be received, felt, shared by us… Receive the message of your sorrows. Hear what it has to tell you.
Sorrow says: Life is so precious.
It is. I used to lament my life..! Remember that?!
What makes life so precious, dear Sorrow? Tell me that.
Sorrow says: In living we can have relationships with one another. That is what makes life so precious.
I hear you, but by my understanding, beyond the physical realm, we still have relationships. What makes life in the physical realm so particular?
Sorrow says: Embodiment is a choice the soul makes. Embodiment makes for ‘separation’ – or a sense of separation, from Source, and from ‘each other’. It is in the conscious bridging of that apparent separation of embodied ‘individuals’ that the experience of ‘joining‘ is to be had. And in joining, is joy.
Oof! Boom. Beautiful!
Sorrow says: The soul longs to experience, again and again, the knowing of Oneness – which is to say Love. This is why overcoming the veil of seeming ‘separation’ is the Heart’s true desire.
This is why I went into conflict resolution! There are elements I had forgotten… Thank you for reminding me.
Also, ‘joining’ was/is an important term for me in terms of my understanding of autism. (See SonRise: https://blog.autismtreatmentcenter.org/category/joining) This is a huge and complex topic, full of nuance, which I can’t fully explore here now. BUT I do want to say that I came deeply to realise that so-called ‘autism’ (aka, what, “self-ism”??) is actually the presentation of a soul, deeply wired for connection (at an empathic, telepathic level), landing in a world that is deeply set up for disconnection, individualism, heavyweight non-comms… Oh my heart… There is so much here…
It’s ok. We hear you. Gently does it. We hear you. What you are saying is that you know that Joining is the natural state. Your difficulty has been living in a world where non-Joining is the default mode.
Yes! But less so now. I see the next generations… Those crystal children and beyond… They know… But look at those currently ‘in charge’, dear God…!!
Slow down. Remember:
Ok. I get it… So JOINING. Let’s focus on what we can achieve…
I just read this by Raun Kaufman, which underlines how hard it can be for NTs to enter the autistic space, even if they really want to…: https://blog.autismtreatmentcenter.org/2017/07/the-7-joining-no-nos-youre-probably-doing.html
How shall I incorporate today’s thoughts into my moving forward…?
Feel the sorrow, in present moment awareness, and let it do its work. It is seeking to help you JOIN more deeply with those you love. JOIN softly, peaceably, from your HEART-CENTRE. Observe those so-called no-nos when interacting with your dear loved ones! Yes, you! In other words, discover the worlds your beloveds are inhabiting… and meet them there. Let them show you round their worlds.
Just like the Brené Brown empathy talk.
Exactly. Get curious. Be respectful of their space and privacy. Really discover how to Join, mindfully holding good personal boundaries and psychic health protocols, for the benefit of all. Slow down. Get curious again. Be ready to listen, to learn, to understand. Drop all assumptions… Become emotionally available by which is meant, allow yourself to see and learn from their emotions today.
I hear you. May that be exactly what I am found capable of doing today. To be emotionally available you need to – or rather, it helps to – have your own house in order. (Hence the value of simplicity.) And so I shall do my SatuRRRday RRRoutine:
- Rest (QT, lie-in)
- Reboot (cleaning, laundry)
- Roam (walk, and/or Retail)
And maybe then I’ll be ready to use my Social Sunday Funday to see some of my loved ones… (Albeit a day before Lockdown eases…) Let’s see.
Yes. And remember: get curious as you Join with others gently.
Ty.
I am getting curious and Joining
