Prioritising the feeling of calm empowerment increased my clarity on what to prioritise. I got to the end of the evening with a clear knowing of ‘Less Is More’.
Leading by the Heart’s objective – and bringing up the rear with the Head’s executive functioning power to deliver Key Results and carry out Tasks to time – really is the road to calm and sustainable progress.
The Heart’s priorities are the soul’s too. The Heart’s Hard Noes and Hard Yesses from the Heart give space to the Head to deliver on life without feeling fried.
And on that note (‘feeling fried’), here’s a Heart’s Objective to live by: Prioritise (Hard Yes) ‘Lowering the Lid’ of the flipped brain.
Dan Siegel’s Hand Model of the Brain
Nowawadays, I am much less likely to live in emotional dysregulation of the outright upset kind, but I certainly live far too much in the alert, sympathetic nervous system state. The thing I like about the Flipped Lid model is that it teaches us that the process of ‘lowering the lid’ takes t i m e… It can’t be rushed. It needs attending to.
Btw, watch this brilliant film for explaining the Flipped Lid to kids:
Let’s read:
-76- At birth you are supple and soft. At death you are stiff and hard. Grass and trees are pliant and tender when living, but they are dry and brittle when dead. Therefore, the stiff and hard are attendants of death, the supple and soft are attendants of life. Thus, the hard weapon will be broken. The mighty tree will invite the axe. Therefore, the hard and mighty belong below; the yielding and gentle belong above. (The Tao Te Ching 76)
Supple, soft, yielding and gentle – these are the qualities of the mind in the parasympathetic state, resting-and-digesting. My Aspie mind with the lid flipped – or simply in alert mode – can become somewhat stiff and hard. May I invite softness in to my thinking and feeling today.
Today is a good day to work with prioritising (Hard Yes) lowering the flipped lid, again and again and again, returning to the softness of ‘Yes, this feels right.’ Tune your lovely mind to Yes FM and work with the elements of life that affirm your “Yes!”. Knowing your “Yes!” supports your ability to identify and assert your Hard No. Why? Because your Head starts to align with your real Priorities when you tune to the Heart’s Yes FM.
Sweet. …And soft and supple.
Today you can play with your Heart’s YES FM.
Ok, today, I am playing with my Heart’s YES FM…and I know when I’ve tuned in right, because my flipped lid starts to lower of its own accord. I’m tuning in and getting the frequency just right.
