I am grateful for yesterday’s….
- Good mediation meeting – grateful to do the work I do
- Getting in to the office for the afternoon despite tired
- Great advice from business mentor
- Second co-coaching session with my eldest – so helpful, and fun
- ‘Early night’ – I cancelled plans and stayed in – looked at the presents I’ve bought so far. Didn’t sleep early though… Man alive… I know why though – carried away on the wings of a drink…
Today is the shortest day, the winter solstice. Thank the heavens. Light incoming!
“Loving myself” yesterday felt as light and intangible as taking smelling salts for a coronary event. I did breathe it in gently. I did cancel plans for ‘self-care’. I did hear the voice of reason. I did make use of the time to do thinking/research for the future of my business. But… I didn’t entirely act on what I heard the whole time.
When I said to myself, “If I loved myself completely, in this moment I would…” – well, startling things came up.
I’ll try it now.
If I loved myself completely, in this moment I would… “take the day off”. Clear as day.
Why don’t you take the day off?
I want to have things under my belt before Christmas – especially the last financial stuff. And anyway, I had two days in bed earlier in the week.
Who said anything about ‘a day off’ being spent in bed?
I’ve no energy for anything else! I’m going to have to work in bed most likely. I had 5.5h sleep last night. I’m knackered – and stressed about Christmas presents.
No one cares what you give them.
Yes they do! I do. Oh, I’m so tired. Need to break the CAC cycle so badly…
- Coffee: “START the day!”
- Alcohol: “STOP the day!”
- Carbs: “Comfort….brain fog…numbness”
My body is struggling. I woke up at 5am with my adrenal glands pumping out of my back. It’s crazy.
How about actually tending to your body today, dear soul? Some healing qigong and yoga? Stretch it all out? Get a trot in to shake out some of the trapped trauma feeling…
So you mean actually do the Download Hour properly and trigger some TRE too… Yes. I need to set the boundaries around my mornings, and fulfil my Housekeeping Habits, come what may. It makes all the difference. Yesterday I had a morning appointment…. I just can’t do it without serious consequences.
It is so fine and ok and acceptable to block off your mornings ‘except for exceptional circumstances’.
Here are the Housekeeping Habits as they stand. Each block is 30 mins, but can be concertina-ed down if time is short. The ideal is to touch on every Habit in the same order, every day, even if briefly.
Housekeeping Habits (7am-12pm):
- 7am Kitchen: coffee (or tea in 2019), machines (laundry/DW), supplements, muesli in a jar for afternoon if required, prep veg for brunch – then back to bed (or in 2019, to red armchair) for…
- 7.30am Daybook + Yesterbox: planning the day and knocking back comms from yesterday
- 8am Marketing: publish on my professional blog and on to twitter/LinkedIn, or just do quick social media post
- 8.30am DoDs 1 – finish yesterday’s post here
- 9am DoDs 2 – start today’s (like now)
- 9.30am Download Hour 1: Meditation | Aerobic (jog) | Qigong
- 10am Download Hour 2: Meditation | Aerobic (jog) | Qigong
- 10.30 Brunch (and check in with G)
- 11am Shower & Dress
- 11.30am Tidy up and prep to leave the house (or sit down at desk) for 12 noon
Hey, that’s actually pretty good when written up. 🙂 I’m pleased with that.
It’s good to do what you need to do. Soon you’ll be able to do the same for the evening. It is safe to create stability.
I’m so Aspie. The manifestation of my autism is getting stronger as I get older, not weaker. I really, really want to go with the Aspie desire for routine and stability, and make use of all it has to offer. A good routine can create wonderful things. Look at Roald Dahl… And Dan Brown… Chop wood, carry water. And repeat. Simple. Simple. Simple. Keep it simple. And do the same thing every day like the Canarians pride themselves on doing, “Siempre, siempre…” (Always, always… I do xyz)
You are learning you don’t need to ‘drop everything’ anymore. Or innovate daily. Hold fast to your chosen, honed, curated, cultivated routines. That is an act of self-respect.
Today I am following my routines. “Siempre, siempre.”
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| MEDS Trackers Dec2018 (chart here): | |
| Med&Ex: Download Hour – Med | Aerobic | Qigong | 10:20:0 |
| Diet: Chopchopchop – mindful, plant-based food | YES! Til eve. |
| Sleep: Sleepstate: 9Screens, 10Books | |
| Med minutes: Tara Brach Smile Med as recommended in Tim Ferriss’s Tools of Titans (edited to 10mins) | 10mins |
| Active minutes | 20? |
| Steps | |
| Food: Coffee&cream; Veg&nuts&seeds; Bounce Protein Ball; Celery&Pate; | |
| Dry? | Nope |
| Screens off | / |
| In bed (with books..) | Late! |
| Sleep Window |
Narrow! |
| Hours slept (as per FitBit data next morning) | ? |
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