Yesterday, I enjoyed helping myself to the happiness which is balance, and anchoring it. It’s not always easy to remember to do the physical anchoring, tapping middle finger to thumb three times, NLP style. But I sense this anchoring is an important exercise of ‘paying attention’. I will reapply myself to it today.
I reflected yesterday on how ‘balance’ or ‘equilibrium’ is akin to ‘harmony’. G and I are currently reading the letters of Rodney Collin (1909 – 1956), a student and teacher of the works of Gurdjieff and Ouspensky, in a posthumous book titled ‘The Theory of Conscious Harmony‘ (1958). In the frontispiece, Collin quotes from his own book, The Herald of Harmony:
Remember then thy Self, remembering God: remember God, remembering thyself. This last achieved, the Herald of Harmony can return to Him Who sent him, his mission done.
Is my work at the moment to help myself to the happiness of harmony?
Work with that today. (You love alliteration.) See what you learn. Anchor, anchor, anchor, using the finger/thumb technique. Settle into this flow of receiving, claiming, allowing the happy feelings of balance, equilibrium, harmony. While fireworks of momentary achievement might please and stimulate the eye for a few seconds, mastering the art of attaining inner harmony can bring ease to the heart-mind for an eternity.
Today I am helping myself to the happiness of harmony
PS. On Sunday:
It’s good practice, this. It’s physiological – I tap fore-middle-ring finger for each ‘H’ word: helping, happiness, harmony. It’s tricky to remember the words, and so it needs attention. Events have arisen to test my sense of inner harmony. My practice brings me back. I will keep going with this one. Any further guidance?
Sometimes it helps to tack, to zig-zag… to keeps ourselves awake. How about a game of Switch20 to liven you up and regroups yourself. Remember: “I love and approve of myself” is a good antidote to cranking up about the potential ‘disapproval’ of others (which is merely an old unhealed scar).
Switch 20: I love and approve of myself…
Having a shower
Clearing my bedroom stuff
Making a pile of things for recycling
Thank you. I will indeed to a spot of Love&Approval Switch20. That will be a fine way of helping myself to the happiness of harmony. ❤️
The hap-full stance is one for really playing with! I like it so much. The phrase ‘Lucky me!’ popped forward yesterday. Try this on for size…
Lucky me! I’m working with these kind, intelligent, dedicated people.
Lucky me! I’m living with the man of my dreams.
Lucky me! I live in a cottage in the countryside.
Lucky me! I have children (whom I adore).
Lucky me! I work for myself.
Lucky me! I have a car and can go anywhere I like.
Lucky me! I can take time in the morning for writing.
Lucky me! Our parents are coming to visit us tomorrow.
Lucky me! The move went really well.
Lucky me! I have plenty of money to pay for the move.
Lucky me! I’m in good health.
Lucky me! My work feels aligned to my purpose and values.
Lucky me! I have a beautiful, supportive network of family and friends.
If mindfulness meditation retrains the brain to ‘notice’ incoming thoughts and become less reactive, jumpy, impulsive in response to those thoughts, this type of ‘mantra’ work, practised internally and aloud across the day, is surely about retraining the mind to ‘notice’ the good, and snapshot it. As my mind gets into the game of spotting the good and lighting up, it starts to become accustomed to running that positive appreciation programme on its own. This is the neural rewiring in the direction of finding the aspects of life which trigger a little splurge of dopamine and serotonin. Good work. Lucky me!
What else should I know about the mantra of ‘Lucky me!’?
Know that moderation in all things is the heart of balance. Remember that (according to Reality Transurfing) ‘balanced forces’ come into play when we over-exert, whether positively or negatively. In gathering excess ‘potential’ we overcook the system, triggering those ‘balanced forces’ to even things out again. We want to avoid building up excess potential in the vibrational system.
Know that the heart needs to be as connected as the mind to this appreciation work. Really get into the habit of feeling the Lucky Me within the heart. This will double, triple, quadruple the efficacy of your practice, because it will root it in your vibrational system.
When you say the ‘efficacy’ of the practice, what do you mean? What are we seeking to effect or affect?
The result of the appreciation practice is, on the one hand, the rewiring of neural pathways so that the ‘ching!’ sensitivity (spark joy!) is heightened. On the other hand, this is about raising personal vibrational frequency. When the vibrational frequency is raised, we start to align with the aspects of life we are leaning towards in our hopes and dreams. In Abraham-Hicks language, we are starting to vibrate with our ‘vortex’.
So feeling the Lucky Me in the heart is an important factor.
Words of appreciation can be empty of affect in certain regards. It’s the feeling of appreciation that fosters the upgrade process, both physiologically (the neural rewiring, the calming of the nervous system, the relaxing of the adrenal glands…) and vibrationally (the frequency rise).
So if today you said (internally or aloud) “Lucky me!…”, today work with feeling the feeling of “Lucky me!…” in the heart. You might articulate it too. But learn to sense that appreciation in the heart. This growing capability will be a great asset in your portfolio of life skills.
From the centre of my heart… Lucky me. <3
Today I am feeling the feeling of “Lucky me!…” in my heart.
Yesterday I listened in to the new house, to the birds of our new garden, to the rooms in the house, and the elements in them… It was a good way to greet the new house, and start to learn its ways, and introduce myself to it. I like to be ever more in the receptive mode, dancing freely in the flow of growth, evolution, fun… As Mum always said: “It’s got to be FUN!”
Today, I am clear: I AM LEARNING….
With a beginner’s mind
To enjoy the wave of good fortune
To let the good flourish under my gaze
To see that everything really is unfolding wonderfully
To reality transurf
To ‘light up’ my next chosen sections of the alternatives space
To let in, and to walk into… my heart’s intention
To unite heart and mind behind my purposeful intention
To allow, to allow, to allow… my vortex to bring forth that which I’ve stored in it
To know my self-worth
To reflect the immense worth of us all
To walk side by side with my love
To share life with a companion. Wow. This.
To receive love, and to give it
To stand firm and upright on behalf of what is good, possible and loving
To do the Work with a light heart
To be empty to the ‘problems’
To let the jester jump
To accept the support, help, magical solutionising of thus benevolent, loving, giving universe
The DOER model is good. You need to start with identifying the ‘undecided‘ thing (the problem, the conundrum, the stalled thing, the thing undone) – so the model almost becomes ‘uDOER’, which I kind of like too… As in ‘Go you, you doer!”
Yesterday, I tried the model out on the task of ‘going to the tip’, which is something I was undecided about, and I hate doing.
Undecided: go to the tip? [All the variables, and the need for time on other things….]
Decided: I shall go to the tip because… [rationale for decision, which I could refer to later]
Organise: list of task steps and timings and considerations
Execute: this was a rollercoaster and I felt uncomfortable/sad/distressed along the way – really important to remember that the bodymind is often not convinced this decision is a good idea until it’s done – so it drags its feet and sends out amygdala alerts all the dang way…
Results/repeat: Reflecting on the outcome was good and reassured me the Decision had been good! I sat down to repeat it with another bigger Undecided project, and… completely Avoided setting a Decision. Maybe I only have One Decision A Day in me? Better make it a good ‘un.
Today: the role of the parasympathetic nervous system (again)
I’ve spent this morning studying the PSNS again… Yesterday I was training in London (waking at 4.44am and leaving house at 5.30am) and today I am fried. My adrenals are on fire again, and my sleep was, again, short. I’m stuck on 6h30 sleep, no matter how tired I am…
I woke up knowing: this near-burnout is all because I’ve got stuck in the sympathetic state over past months. And the parasympathetic system is barely getting a look in. I’m stuck in ‘urgent!’ mode. And stopping actually feels edgy, like falling off a cliff. So I zone out, with screens and late nights. But I don’t get proper ‘rest and digest’ time. My brain is always on. I’m super vigilant. I’m always communicating with someone or some idea, and for an aspie person that means the Theory of Mind turbo chargers are on…. It’s all out of whack.
This video explains why the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nervous Systems are like Holmes and Watson… they are intertwined. And the SNS is the one that has a quicker take up rate in any given instance:
And this sympathetic dominance in me is also why I am not losing weight, but rather am inflamed and bloated. So…
DECISION OF THE DAY: I commit to getting back into the parasympathetic state frequently, so that I am no longer SNS dominant. In fact, I want to be PSNS dominant.
ORGANISE: I know the best asset here is QIGONG. It is moving meditation, it is exercise, it is sleep-hygiene personified, it regularises the cranio-sacral nerves (including the vagus) that make up the PSNS; it massages and calms the spinal nerves that make up the SNS. I commit, with my heart, body and soul, to practice qigong each day this month. I will track it on my tracker.
EXECUTE: I call on my higher self to support me to ‘Execute’ this commitment even when I am doubting, feeling too tired, feeling like I don’t have time, feeling uninspired.
RESULTS: What results am I anticipating? A calmed parasympathetic nervous system. This qigong practice will be my foundation.
Yep?
Deep breath here… Slow down again. *sings* ‘Slow down, you move too fast… Feeling groovy.’
Yes, feeling groovy is being in the PSNS state.
Which you’re not just now, eh?
Nope… I wired and fired, fried and wide-eyed… 🙁 Exhausted. Adrenals pumping and swollen in my back… Worried for my health…
Ok, there we are. Good. Well done for saying that. Yes, this is about healing with thoughts, emotional release, poise, intention… This is a great opportunity to learn about holding the PSNS state even in the company of another…
This is my concern! Living in companionship with someone – how does one ever get the ‘silent retreat’ and recuperate the PSNS state? How does one avoid becoming taut, and ‘not the person one once was’? Will I have a character change moving in with my beloved G?!
Sweet one, living alone, you have not been entering silent retreat! You have been screen locked and switched to “On” mode for months… You will find it easier to enter silent retreat in the loving physical company of one who is also naturally a retreatant in their day to day mode, as indeed you were for a while when you were in your best ANS homeostasis… When was that you say? Early 2017. Yes, it was the state which brought you and G into vibrational alignment to meet. Trust in that.
You have reminded yourself of the key tool: qigong. Worry yourself not further here. Pause. Breathe. Go and ‘execute’ the Decision of the Day.
What is the message for my day though?
‘I am entering the parasympathetic state.’ Remember what Eliza said? It takes but one mindful breath to enter the parasympathetic state. You can come back to that one mindful breath time and time and time again across the day.
Don’t even worry about meditation at this point. You are too mentally wired, and carrying too much psoas stress, to do seated meditation at the moment. But qigong simultaneously overrides and healsboth those difficulties for you… It’s astonishingly powerful. Hence Chris Shelton’s tagline: ‘simple practice, profound results.’ So go do it. Relax. And get on with your day. TRUST the qigong to return you to your restful, no-crisis-now, peaceful, vagally-calming, cranio-sacrally settled, parasympathetic state.
I am grateful for yesterday’s achievements, blessings, confirmations….
I had a GREAT day of planning out potential future ‘achievements for achieverisation’. My new wall calendar and Action Day planner arrived, and I set them up to make use of the focus (which I developed with the Full Focus Planner last year) on weekly, quarterly and yearly planning and reflection – but now based on lightly anticipating and then spotting, collecting and revelling in all the ABCs (achievements, blessings, confirmations)
I loved writing down the achievements I knew would float in without my trying, and the ones which I can lean in to and unleash gently… It was fun and I felt a sense of possibility, ease, simplicity and playfulness.
I’ve already lost four pounds. 🙂
My eldest hosted me and her sister in the evening, with an amazing rabbit stew she had made herself. We talked and laughed together. It was bliss. I love my girls so much.
This video from Abraham-Hicks filled my heart and spoke to all the forward-facing joy I’ve been leaning into over the last few years, and learning how to master, day by day by day. Thank you, dear Esther Hicks – you have been a life-changing teacher to me for 10 years now. I’m so grateful. This newer ability to jump into celebrating achievements, blessings, confirmations comes v much from you. And from my G. who constantly gives me great cobweb-wiping gusts of joy, pride and awe.
Evening: qigong while listening to more Abraham-Hicks and then great reading on Robin Amis and Seth Godin – with my mind on form… Yes! Ty for sobriety again.
So today. I’ve started a new marketing approach – sharing quotes of brilliant writers in my field on social media. It’s a way of ‘offering simple help’ in that it’s food for thought, inspiration, encouragement… It also honours the writers I owe a great deal to. We’ll see if it flies! Any thoughts?
You are starting off the year as you mean to go on: with simplicity, humility and purpose. This is excellent.
Humility?
In pointing to the work and wisdom of others. Good.
Ah, excellent. Yes, it’s a little less ‘look at me – help!’. The Seth Godin book is helping me reframe marketing. He reminds us it’s not a customer’s role to solve a business’s urgent problem (eg lack of customers). It’s the businesses role to solve the customer’s problem – having first taken the time to ‘see’ the customer as they are.
I’m going to the office today. I’ve got some big presentations to get done. That’s the kind of achieverisation that might intimidate a girl…
Offer. Simple. Help.
Simplify my presentations?
If you want them to fly. If they are so big and bulky they sadden you to develop them, imagine what it will be like on the receiving end.
Noted. 🙂 What else should I know and bear in mind today?
Last night you were touched by G’s notes on Robin Amis‘s words – especially on the theme of ‘prayer of the heart’.
Yes! Let me go back to that. G’s notes of his meeting with Robin say:
Prayer
“Prayer of the heart – 1/2 way between meditation and prayer. This was used in a different way, an inner way to transform oneself, to make one open and serviceable to God.”
“Western forms of prayer ‘inflate’ people, they get excited over results which prevents the full benefit. Inner arousal is OK, but the activity of the psyche burns it up.”
Ref. Isaac of Nineveh re. methods of preventing this.”
Who is Isaac of Nineveh?
Wikipedia says…
‘Isaac of Nineveh (c. 613 – c. 700), also known as Saint Isaac the Syrian, Abba Isaac, Isaac Syrus and Isaac of Qatar, was a 7th-century Syriac Christian bishop and theologian best remembered for his written works on Christian asceticism.’
Look at this quote…
“What is a charitable heart? It is a heart which is burning with love for the whole creation, for men, for the birds, for the beasts … for all creatures. He who has such a heart cannot see or call to mind a creature without his eyes being filled with tears by reason of the immense compassion which seizes his heart; a heart which is softened and can no longer bear to see or learn from others of any suffering, even the smallest pain being inflicted upon a creature. That is why such a man never ceases to pray for the animals … [He is] … moved by the infinite pity which reigns in the hearts of those who are becoming united with God.” Isaac of Nineveh
This is beautiful.
How does it relate to you?
I guess, with a charitable heart, or when in a state of ‘prayer of the heart’, I am less self-focussed? Maybe then it’s easier to do the work I need to do, because I am ‘burning with love’ rather than ‘squirming with fear/concern/self-consciousness’?
You are terribly harsh on yourself sometimes, but yes, it is certainly a case of the centre of one’s intention shifting from self to other, which as we noted yesterday and the day before, is helpful in making any kind of human progress.
How should I begin?
By centring in on the sensations of the heart. Now you have stopped sealing it over with coffee and booze, you have more access to its messages.
Ok. I can do that. Today I will centre in on the sensations of the heart. Is that right?
Good mediation meeting – grateful to do the work I do
Getting in to the office for the afternoon despite tired
Great advice from business mentor
Second co-coaching session with my eldest – so helpful, and fun
‘Early night’ – I cancelled plans and stayed in – looked at the presents I’ve bought so far. Didn’t sleep early though… Man alive… I know why though – carried away on the wings of a drink…
Today is the shortest day, the winter solstice. Thank the heavens. Light incoming!
“Loving myself” yesterday felt as light and intangible as taking smelling salts for a coronary event. I did breathe it in gently. I did cancel plans for ‘self-care’. I did hear the voice of reason. I did make use of the time to do thinking/research for the future of my business. But… I didn’t entirely act on what I heard the whole time.
When I said to myself, “If I loved myself completely, in this moment I would…” – well, startling things came up.
I’ll try it now.
If I loved myself completely, in this moment I would… “take the day off”. Clear as day.
Why don’t you take the day off?
I want to have things under my belt before Christmas – especially the last financial stuff. And anyway, I had two days in bed earlier in the week.
Who said anything about ‘a day off’ being spent in bed?
I’ve no energy for anything else! I’m going to have to work in bed most likely. I had 5.5h sleep last night. I’m knackered – and stressed about Christmas presents.
No one cares what you give them.
Yes they do! I do. Oh, I’m so tired. Need to break the CAC cycle so badly…
Coffee: “START the day!”
Alcohol: “STOP the day!”
Carbs: “Comfort….brain fog…numbness”
My body is struggling. I woke up at 5am with my adrenal glands pumping out of my back. It’s crazy.
How about actually tending to your body today, dear soul? Some healing qigong and yoga? Stretch it all out? Get a trot in to shake out some of the trapped trauma feeling…
So you mean actually do the Download Hour properly and trigger some TRE too… Yes. I need to set the boundaries around my mornings, and fulfil my Housekeeping Habits, come what may. It makes all the difference. Yesterday I had a morning appointment…. I just can’t do it without serious consequences.
It is so fine and ok and acceptable to block off your mornings ‘except for exceptional circumstances’.
Here are the Housekeeping Habits as they stand. Each block is 30 mins, but can be concertina-ed down if time is short. The ideal is to touch on every Habit in the same order, every day, even if briefly.
Housekeeping Habits (7am-12pm):
7am Kitchen: coffee (or tea in 2019), machines (laundry/DW), supplements, muesli in a jar for afternoon if required, prep veg for brunch – then back to bed (or in 2019, to red armchair) for…
7.30am Daybook + Yesterbox: planning the day and knocking back comms from yesterday
8am Marketing: publish on my professional blog and on to twitter/LinkedIn, or just do quick social media post
11.30am Tidy up and prep to leave the house (or sit down at desk) for 12 noon
Hey, that’s actually pretty good when written up. 🙂 I’m pleased with that.
It’s good to do what you need to do. Soon you’ll be able to do the same for the evening. It is safe to create stability.
I’m so Aspie. The manifestation of my autism is getting stronger as I get older, not weaker. I really, really want to go with the Aspie desire for routine and stability, and make use of all it has to offer. A good routine can create wonderful things. Look at Roald Dahl… And Dan Brown… Chop wood, carry water. And repeat. Simple. Simple. Simple. Keep it simple. And do the same thing every day like the Canarians pride themselves on doing, “Siempre, siempre…” (Always, always… I do xyz)
You are learning you don’t need to ‘drop everything’ anymore. Or innovate daily. Hold fast to your chosen, honed, curated, cultivated routines. That is an act of self-respect.
Today I am following my routines. “Siempre, siempre.”
Trip to London with a friend and colleague to spend the afternoon with other friends and colleagues
The opportunity to practise the ‘folded arms’ concept – especially when others are on their own roll. Yes. I like it. I realise how much I’ve tended to gush energy by being (purposely, but maybe mistakenly) always ‘open’. I quickly realised that, for a woman, this folded arms gesture leaves you cradling your breasts, rather like a ‘babe in arms’! It’s actually quite a comforting, and self-nurturing experience, especially with the consciousness of the heart being held in the centre.
Sense of confusion about ‘what next?’… and some clarifying exchanges with G. about one’s own aim, intention… and that which can only be created uniquely through each person, if/as they keep to their own aims…
So today. My lovely youngest comes home for several weeks, for the first time since the end of Sept – three months! We’d only ever been separated for up to two weeks before then. It will be gorgeous to have her home.
I woke at 4.15am today. There’s a lot in my heart. I read Reality Transurfing this morning. Nicely it corroborated some of the thinking last night…
“Do not ask, do not demand, do not struggle, just create. Shape your own reality with the help of conscious intention.”Reality Transurfing p640
“What does this mean for me today?”, she asked with her arms thoughtfully cradling her bosom.
It’s time to think about The Power of No.
Ha. I see what you did. 🙂 … Hm. This topic…. Yikes.
What did Steve Jobs say?
“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying “no” to 1,000 things.” Steve Jobs
And how does this relate to you?
I think it comes down to that ‘conscious intention’ aspect from the RT quote above: ‘shape your reality with the help of conscious intention’. When we step out to create, I believe it often creates a whirlpool of attracted forces, some relevant and some really not – and it fact some of those irrelevant forces are specifically antagonistic in nature, as if testing our tenacity and commitment to that stated intention. These and others are the 1000 things we have to say no to.
And what is the advantage of folding our arms gently, slowing down, getting into a state of relational presence and saying a warm, deep ‘no’?
Truthfulness? Authenticity? Alignment! We get aligned more closely with our actually intention.
If a person’s stated conscious intention was to teach peace through dialogue, what might she need to say no to?
Any thing that wasn’t that?
That’s useful, yes. But there’s something else. What are those Four Tendencies?
Ah! She might have to say ‘no’ to her internal Obliger…!
Right. So this is an important point. It’s tiring to say no to 1000 things, when the Internal Obliger is saying ‘yip, yep, yup’ to everything arising. Easier for you to speak to your Internal Obliger directly first and bring her into agreement with your intention.
Hi dear Obliger-within-Me. Can we work together on this intention? Why do you say yes to e v e r y t h i n g?
Internal Obliger: Saying no seems rude!
Aah. Can we get ok with being rude? What would that take?
Internal Obliger: Certainty that the alternative was worthwhile and sensible.
Ok… How can we convince ourselves that ‘being rude’ is worthwhile and sensible?
Internal Obliger: I am open to the notion that saying yes to things we can’t fulfil properly or in a timely fashion is also rude.
Ah, excellent. So how about if we do a measure on incoming things like this:
Do I want to do it? Y/N – If no – aim to say so, because I’m unlikely to do something well and unwillingly, which would be rude.
Can I do it, well and in time? Y/N ie Have I got capacity to fulfil the request properly and in a timely fashion? (And doing it at expense to health is not acceptable) If no, say so.
There’s a third aspect here. It’s about saying Y/N to unpaid and low paid work. Why do you/we keep doing that? Why do we fall for the promise of ‘jam tomorrow’ (as G says) so often?
Internal Obliger: To be good enough. To seek permission.
As RT says: “Do not ask, do not demand, do not struggle, just create.” Can you help me do that?
Internal Obliger: Well why don’t you try activating your Internal Questioner, rather than bothering me, who is just doing her job nicely?
Ok. Good plan.
Internal Questioner: What do you want?
I want some help meeting my own expectations more, and others’ less.
Internal Questioner: Well why didn’t you ask earlier?
I really don’t know… You are full of questions!
Internal Questioner: What did you expect?
Ha! Ok. So I have a question for you. How will you help me meet my inner expectations?
Internal Questioner: How will you stop meeting others’ expectations first? When will you stop resisting your own expectations? When will you start asking yourself: “Is this in my best interests? What is in my best interest? What are my best interests?”
That’s helpful. I can take a more questioning approach. I can ask myself about my best interests… Ty.
I’m so tired now. This has been quite long and convoluted, though very helpful and relevant. Can we conclude?
“Today I am considering my best interests” would be a good start.
Makes me feel sad for some reason.
Because you think it’s too late to start thinking about this – that you’ve missed a trick, or the boat. No, now is the perfect time. And no, it’s not selfish. It’s fundamental to self-care, self-preservation, and self-determination. If you want others to look after you, dodge the opportunity to put your best interests first. If you want to be strong and self-determining, start to put your best interests first. It’d be rude not to, right? So…
Fold your arms self-nurturingly, go slowly in that state of ‘feeling groovy’ and ask yourself: “Do I want to do it? Can I do it? What is in my best interests here?” And then take the blessing of Steve Jobs and the angels of heaven and, wherever needed, calmly say “No”. Anticipate many more ‘nos’ than ever before. Breathe deeply of the clean air that floods into that freshly vacated space.
Today I am learning the Power of No: saying ‘no’ to that which does not serve my inner intentions and expectations
learning about ‘downloading the frequency of love’
thoughts about one’s ‘one purpose’ and being able to raise a high enough flag to be visible as one’s self
this revised version of the personal credo or one purpose:
“Everyone can be happy.
People, creativity and nature bring happiness.
And of all things that foster happiness, love comes first.”
And I am grateful for yesterday (no written post)…:
time with my Love
getting things done gently
pondering further on ‘downloading the frequency of love’
tidying up
planning for the getting things done by the end of the year (that wall-planner is working well)
watching The Minimalists documentary on Netflix – gorgeous! See https://www.theminimalists.com/
the realisation that, like author Dan Brown says, ‘moving from sleep-state to writing’ as swiftly/smoothly as possible is the best way for writing. I gave myself permission to fend off comms with the external world til 2pm on days when my time is my own. eg today.
So, dear Voice of Wisdom, in this beautiful, protected, post-sleep-state early morning time, please can we discuss this notion of ‘downloading the frequency of love’? What is it, and how does it fit with the MEDS Project? I’m conscious that I’m still working on understanding my physical health. My adrenal fatigue is much, much better and my spirits are high (I’m in love!) – but I need to build physical strength, I need to cleanse and detox further, I need to lay in the habits for a healthy middle age.
You ask the relationship between ‘downloading the frequency of love’ and building your physical health. They are intimately linked. The frequency of love is a frequency of light: it is a very high frequency, which in itself is cleansing, clearing, catalysing, creative. The cell structures are affirmed by this frequency; the energy system is reinforced and given the breath of life by this frequency. Why are you not doing qigong? Because you think it’s about getting a slimmer stomach… Because you do not yet understand that focussed qigong (as you practised last year) is the most direct way you can simultaneously download love and health into your system. If you understood the power of focussed, mindful qigong, you would dedicate time to it every day, gratefully, hungrily, delightedly.
Seriously..?
A ‘daily hour of downloading’ would change your life in one week:
20 mins of meditation
20 mins of trotting (fast walking or jogging) / trampolining / weights / yoga – whatever warms up the body and gives the heart a stir – an Aerobic Burst
20 mins of focussed qigong
Really? And in that order?
In that order. Yes.
‘Download Hour.’
If you like. It’s quicker than going to the gym, or a class. All it takes is your devoted commitment to its daily practice. Come. What. May. You watched The Minimalists – they look at what happens when you switch up life so you need to work less, and live more. You Have Done That. Your work precisely allows you to have mastery over your use of time, and to work intensively in bursts. Congratulations. Now, to learn to fill the time wisely. With dedication to your purpose: Love Comes First. This includes Love of your beautiful body, and awareness of the fact that as you absorb the frequencies of love, and light, you (all) bring greater Love into the planet. ie. It’s not about getting a flat stomach. Though, if that floats your boat, you get that too.
Lovely. And what about downloading the frequency of love and the theme of Diet? Brainmaker / Intermittent Fasting… What’s the score here?
Chop, chop, chop. Keep chopping the organic, green food, dear soul. Your body absorbs the love of the organically-grown green plant, with huge relish. When you are absorbing only lovingly-produced food, you need not worry so much about strict protocols of timing.
I see… And fasting though. That’s good, no? Gives the body a rest?
It does – when you are steady enough to fast. For now, look at the meals you cook, and refine them. Eat mindfully, gratefully, appreciatively, humbly. Imbibe the love. Think ‘plant-based’. Love your vegetables. (Not grains – vegetables and legumes) With a smattering of meat, oil and probiotics, vegetables are the basis of all you need.
Vegetables first. Vegetables first. Vegetables first. Organic. Crowding out the other stuff. Mindfully. Gratefully. Appreciatively. Humbly…
So, downloading the frequency of love into my body is achieved by:
Download Hour (Med / Aerobic Burst / Qigong)
Chop, chop, chop
That covers M. E. and D. And Sleep?
For Sleep: the 9pm screen curfew still stands, followed by ‘I am in bed with my (uplifting) books by 10pm’. This is the perfect prep for getting into a love-downloading dream state (for you, for now – it could be even better, but this will do beautifully for now).
Ok. So. In sum, downloading the frequency of love into my body can be achieved by this daily formula:
Download Hour (Med / Aerobic Burst / Qigong)
Chop, chop, chop
9pm screens-off and ‘In bed with my books by 10pm’
Would it be worth doing a spread sheet, or chart on the wall, for December? This would mirror the coloured boxes below, but give a clear indication of the build-up of good practice over days. Also, I really would like to invest in a Fit-Bit again, and map hours slept, and steps taken, and minutes of aerobic exercise… That works well for me.
Studying data on a wallchart in December will be effective.
And the FitBit.., Let’s do it today.
Once you’ve done the wallchart.
Ok. Time to get busy… I’ll be back…
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…Wow… looking into my Google Drive for old wallchart templates… Do you remember the Tresiliance Project (link to template here) I designed for myself in 2014/15? Amazing…! I love it.
TRESILIANCE PRoject – daily pattern:
Trauma Release – 5am
Extreme Self-care – 6am
Into Limbo (getting mundane admin done, I recall) – 7.15 – 12pm
Invigorating Attention 12-5pm
Nurturing & Nourishing 5-8pm
Calming Exercise 8pm
Practise Reverence 9pm
I actually have so many templates for ordering daily life… Amazing. But this is just about tracking. Gently does it. Ok, a new wallchart…
Here we are:
MEDS Tracker Dec2018
I’ll print this and put it on my wall. That way, across December, I can track daily, both here on a per day view, and on my bedroom wall, on a per week view.
Thank you for this. Anything else today? Theme for today?
Say: “My time is my own”
Ooh… Crunchy. Yes… I’ve been so inclined to give it up, or rent it out, or sell it, or give it away… to feed others’ aims and purposes. I’ve felt that working is about ‘making yourself available’. I’ve been working on this.
My time is my own. And I can use it towards my own goals and aims. Which are…?
Financial security (for peace of mind and income as a marker of adding value to the planet)
Love Comes First (downloading the frequency of love)
Cool.
Today I am saying “My time is my own”, and using my time to support my goals of financial security and downloading the frequency of love. This is it. This is real. Life is short. No more time to pretend I don’t feel this way, or prioritise these themes.
fruitful work (completed a new training programme, on Suicide Prevention & Intervention – delivering today)
Switch20 game… got a lot done when I used it
good food
fascination with British politics going into 6th gear…
Switch20 shows me how deeeeeeeeeply down the mental (thinking) rabbit hole I tend to go.
When I Switch Attention ‘cleanly’ (which can feel like pulling a tooth out initially), it makes me more:
efficient
agile
focussed
task-orientated
minimalist
attentive to the ‘next best task’
‘problem-busting’
(also…. agitated and unsettled if I’m not in the right zone)
I spent a long time on the training development after I dropped off using Switch20 at about 1pm…. I would have been more efficient and agile and focussed if I had had the courage to keep using it – but I was under a pressure of a deadline to complete, so it just felt ‘risky’ to try a new way.
That’s understandable. You are developing new tools, for fuller deployment donw the line. Everything doesn’t have to be mastered immediately.
This morning I’ve been studying the Bronnikov Method…. He talks about the New Human. It’s really interesting, because it seems to pick up things I’ve worked out myself… It matches Joe Dispenza who I was reading and finding helpful recently too. See: https://www.bronnikovcenter.net/
Also I’ve downloaded an intermittent fasting app called BodyFast. I know I need to give my body a break and a boost.
I guess I’m thinking about this ‘human potential’ theme. It sure is an antidote to thinking about mental illness which was a big theme for me, and is now what I am training people about a lot.
Yes, the ‘towards’ vision….
I must go to work… Got this important training. Today?
“I am well”
Nu?
Your world mirrors your belief. Remind yourself to live with and within your ‘towards’ vision. Especially when delivering training which would benefit from your positive assertion at all times. Sing it internally across the day.
Lovely. Thank you..
Today I am well
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MEDITATION? NO
EXERCISE? NO
#STEPS
DIET – BRAIN-MAKER DIET? NO
DRY today? NO
MORNING: My muesli, caulirice&eggs&kale :)))
EVENING: Fish & chips, G&Ts
SLEEP – IN BED WITH MY BOOKS BY 10pm? NO festive friday
PSNS (parasympathetic nervous system) activation work… omg… so good
inching forward with work, while horizontal in bed
first practice with a new band <3
So this Parasympathetic Nervous System (PSNS) activation work is VITAL. This is breakthrough material.. again!
Today is the day when you lay the path for tomorrow. (Every day.)
What can / shall I do today to lay the path for a better tomorrow?
Work /act / start from a state of PSNS – this is the only ‘sane’ state of mind with which to enter a world which is wired, fried and hopped up on fear.
Accept that new patterns and habits are best deployed tenderly and in a timely fashion.
Thank you. So if I want to start my days with PSNS activation… I am looking at…
Busting out of bed, sweetcheeks.
Yes. I have my lovely wing-backed chair to write in; my meditation stool to ‘sit’ upon; my trainers to put on my feet and get out for an early morning walk. Those are the key elements, no?
Your ‘coffee in bed’ ritual gets in the way. Can you take your coffee to the Writing Chair?
Yes, siree, I can. Especially if I put the heating on in the office when I get out of bed. I can put an oil heater in there… And the Morning Walk or Qigong? And the Morning Meditation?
We suggest an experimental approach. Try switching it all up in the mornings, and see if you can measure which routine soothes the system best. Remember the principle is this: ‘there’s no point in trying to ‘work’ without first activating the PSNS.‘ This is the point of the (any) morning routine.
Ok. Good. Got it. An experimental approach. Yesterday I noted how I had ‘calmed the SNS and activated my PSNS’ on post-its. Maybe I’ll keep that noting practice going for a few days.
Yes. Noting is good. And remember: it’s all about Soothing The System. This is the first step of self-care.
Today I am Soothing My System.
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Well, there’s nothing like actual tracking my day to see how Intention and Action can be so far removed from each other.However I did take some positive actions to Soothe My System…
Today I Soothed My System in these ways:
I meditated briefly, and did 3 or 4 qigong centring gestures
I embedded some long-out-breathing in my day
I remembered that a little (homeopathic) bit of mediation and qigong is farrrrr better than none at all – it reminds the system of what it already knows.
I gave myself enough time to get ready to go.
Realised this important factor:
‘Rest’ (stillness, PJ paralysis, being in bed) does not lead to activated PSNS
Activating the PSNS (which is an active process) does lead to ‘rest and digest’
I realised this – as a child I was mis-taught (threatened with #fake news) the idea that ‘success’ evades us unless we are prepared to:
leap into the hot fire of the SNS
hemorrhage energy outwards to others
I jiggled and bobbed around when feeling stress in the system
Decided to look up ASMR
Considered taking up monthly TRE sessions
I am learning so much. Now… to put it in to action.
Amen.
Meditation:
20 mins of MEDITATION? – Just 5 mins – in a rush out in the morning for a job
Exercise:
ONE HOUR OF EXERCISE? NO
SOME MEANINGFUL/SOOTHING EXERCISE? NO ://// What’s happening?
#STEPS – few
Diet:
BRAIN-MAKER DIET? NO
DRY today? NO
MORNING: My muesli; Coffee&cream; veg sticks & houmous; chickpea puffs
AFTERNOON: celery&creamcheese; G&T; Nandos with family (incl chips.. could have had chicken salad);2 ciders; beer
Ref. Isaac of Nineveh re. methods of preventing this.”
That’s useful, yes. But there’s something else. What are those 
