While I may be able to bring rational balance to my thinking, at times I have brutally low dopamine levels – which make me want to stim, avoid, seek relief.
It can be extremely hard to start new things
I looked up #dopamine on IG… so helpful.
So maybe I would meet the criteria for ADHD as well as ASD. Who knows?
I earnestly seek the ‘reward’ of well done
This is basically about gentle self-parenting… and it’s not so ‘exciting’ and it needs ongoing work…
And then THIS notion arrived! To say to self, ad infintum:
“You’ve done really well [with xyz],
Here, have a little treat.”
[aka: “Here, H.A.L.T.”]
And the little treat can be whatever is actually already there at the moment:
the comfy chair I’m sitting on
the hot water I’m washing my hands with
the food I’m eating
The point is that I am constantly affirming that I’ve done well – and frankly, any of us who have navigated a few decades of life have done really well! – and that I can accept the little rewards of life. It’s a way of self-parenting mindfully and of pumping the dopamine pump. And it turns everything in our orbit into a gift for good effort. It flips the coin of ‘no pain no gain’. It rewards ease with ease with ease…. which is how the cork floats, right?
Right! This is all about giving up crisis and drama as your go-to means of dosing the brain’s hunger for dopamine stimulation.
I hear you. I got a bit hooked on severe crisis for a few years – it hurt, but my goodness, you knew you were alive. Life in the old higher frequencies of peace and calm can feel a bit…
‘Vanilla’?
Ha! Idk… Where are the hits of ecstasy?
Yesterday I was longing for that CONNECTION with the metaphysical world…
Is this not enough for you?
🙂 Forgive me… I could have these conversations all day long, but life keeps butting in and needing my attention. I wish I could have more of a sense of this connection in the space-time reality of everyday life.
Are you able to see how much connection you have going on when you are working?
I sense it sometimes, it’s true. It’s pretty awesome at times… I guess then I start to hanker for that too, but it’s draining!
Right! So know that your connection with the sublime that you seek is with you all the time. Sometimes you align with it, and feel great, and other times you lean away from it, and feel lost and alone. Over time you’ll align with it more. Like today, you can choose to align with that knowing of All Is Well, or you can lean in to Doubt.
Yesterday I heard Abraham-Hicks define compassion vs empathy almost exactly as I do, but better. Something like: compassion as staying in alignment with what one knows to be true while seeing someone else’s predicament… For me, Compassion is about taking action to prevent and alleviate suffering, while Empathy is just getting in their shoes and feeling their suffering (not so good for generating uplift).
Uplift. There’s your word for today. A-H talked about someone being an ‘Uplifter to their core’. Know that offering UPLIFT to another person is a gift of frequency recalibration. You can bring uplift by offering the spirit of ‘Here, HALT’ [have a little treat] to those you see today.
I’m travelling to see my darling Dad and step-mother, and cousin and husband, with my DD2, for Sunday lunch.
So take the uplift of “Here, HALT” with you. A little treat can be a gift, or a word, or a reflection … And it is first self-administered. So today, uplift yourself and others with the awareness of as many ‘little treats’ as possible. Everything can be a ‘little treat’.
I remember I used to say to myself ‘a treat is not a treat’ referring to my predilection for self-medication by wine, crisps or chocolates…
You were right. The little treats are already there. Absorb them, recognise them for what they are. Cease waiting for ‘something else’. See what is there, in the moment. There is a reason the phrase is, “Here, HALT” – because the treat is always already in the Here & Now. Get it?
What I’ve been learning about ‘ritual’ as I follow my own patterns:
The ‘sacred habits’ make our everyday acts intentional, mindful, delicate, precise.
No part of the routine is ‘incidental’ – eg. ‘If I’m going to carefully put on my pyjamas every day, in a ritualesque fashion, I’d suddenly like them to be clean, and without holes..!’ Thus the pjs become a sacred garment rather than a utilitarian ‘throw on’. How beautiful is that?!
Remember concepts of planetary ascension? Shifting consciousness from 3D to 5D? Well, that’s a rollercoaster – and rituals reduce the symptoms of that transition.
An attitude of ritual requires – and facilitates – bright attention.
Ritual slows us right down… no act is just a means to the next act… it all counts.
Beautiful. Something to add to point 3:
Remember concepts of planetary ascension? Shifting consciousness from 3D to 5D? Well, that’s a rollercoaster – and rituals reduce the symptoms of that transition and help us tolerate the higher frequencies without dissociating or escaping or self-medicating…
Aha… Wow. Ok. That’s interesting to know. I’d like to understand more…
So may it be that I bring kind attention and a heart-centred smile to the sea of my experience today. May my state be also a conduit of ease and wellbeing for others. Please tell me more of the idea of ‘tolerating the higher frequencies’…
Welcome to this New Day, dear soul. It is good to see you approaching the altar of your own consciousness time and again, unflinchingly. We say unflinchingly because it is not without some testing and – dare we say- trauma for you on occasion, to come to see your internal workings and invite them to rest in ease.
You are right. When I started my meditation today I felt ‘pain and strain’ and a desire for ‘release and rest’.
We wonder why you put yourself through such heart-strain each evening with your television programme. [We’re watching Homeland – intense drama about the CIA – now on Season 3]
Because I care about the characters now! Very much! And also, because I’m learning, a lot. I had a mediation meeting recently and a person whistle-blew to a senior colleague… Through Homeland I was aware of how much that person would now need protection, and that doing nothing for a while would be a better step for the senior colleague than taking action… Anyway, that’s my hot take on why I’m watching the programme. Yours?
Did you see the word ‘heart-strain’?
Hm… yes…. It’s true. And my work gives me heart-strain too… And my beloved Dad’s condition gives me heart-strain. (Yesterday he learnt they are starting him on chemo next week. My darling Dad…) As an empath there’s only so much heart-strain I can take, and yet… I seem to crave the stimulation of heart-strain. Don’t I?
Indeed, dear soul! That is why you do the work you do! You LOVE to feel your heart engaged. And because you feel you need external stimulus to engage your heart fully, you seek out the Most Poignant arenas of life: psychological suffering and interpersonal conflict.
Ha. That’s so true. I do… And, so?
And so, sweet soul, we recognise that you are doing your best! And it is warmly received and valued. Next, how would it look like to exist and thrive not via the currency of heart-strain, but of compassion and kindness?
Well it sounds great, but isn’t my taking action in the field of ‘psychological suffering and interpersonal conflict’ precisely about compassion and kindness?
Nearly… You have to learn not to add to the ‘resistance’ with your own disturbed heart frequencies.
Oh man, this is advanced level ninja arts!
Indeed! To be amidst the suffering without either a) bringing/experiencing ones own suffering or b) zoning out of the suffering with numbness requires real Presence. And Presence is experienced in the cool, life-giving airs of the Higher Frequencies, were psychic noise is not found, and equanimity reigns.
Oofy…. Ok. Yes. Go on… How do I work with this today?
Play with that word ‘equanimity’.
Equanimity (Latin: æquanimitas, having an even mind; aequus even; animus mind/soul) is a state of psychological stability and composure which is undisturbed by experience of or exposure to emotions, pain, or other phenomena that may cause others to lose the balance of their mind.
An even, balanced, undisturbed mind… Interesting. I will play with this.
Cultivate, develop, welcome equanimity – like a new-old friend arriving to you across the desert from a long journey. Greet your friend Equanimity with a smile, with kindness, with relief, with fellowship.
That was a sweet meditation. Innocent. Light. I appreciated it. Over to you…
This morning you added the word ‘Ritual’ to your Routine document.
Yes… it just felt right. Yesterday, our THREE MONTH Covid-19 Lockdown eased another step, with ‘non-essential’ shops re-opening, and pubs opening their outdoors areas… I guess I am aware that some of the patterns I’ve developed in this last 12 months of the pandemic are more than just ‘new routines’ – they are sacred habits which offer me peace.
‘Sacred habits’ – beautiful. Indeed, we see you dipping into the pots of nectar that your soul is fed by, just a little, every day. Isn’t that so much better than a ‘grand’ splurge every so often?
Yes. It’s almost like I’m finally self-parenting, in the way my inner child actually wants. My Mon-Fri daily routines have 10mins of this and that (meditation, tidying, qigong…) and I feel renewed balance in my life. It so suits my Aspie inner being – at last….
So ‘Rituals’. Let’s look the word up:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ritual
It’s 7.59am: “Jump up at 8 & everything’s great.” Let’s come back to this tomorrow. <3 Take the word ‘Ritual’ into your day, and let it percolate.
Ok. Perfect. Ty. xxx
I am taking the word ‘Ritual’ into my day, and letting it percolate
Yesterday I practised ‘Wonder-Lusting’ starting by spotting Wonder-Full moments….
Wonder-Lusting – Part I – Spotting Wonder-Full Moments:
Post-qigong – garden vivid, sparkling, alive
ASV is here… in front of me!
ASV sees her father and baby brother for 1st time in 3 months
G & I talk about hard things, beautifully
Abraham-Hicks podcast in the woods makes my heart sing
Family Zoom with 3 generations – grandchildren delighting all
Wonder-Lusting – Part II – fantasising:
Abraham mentioned how Esther used to use her imagination on long drives at night or through less attractive areas, to ponder on developing her treehouse (eg making it 10 stories instead of 3), because the thinking about it was so very pleasurable.
So on my walk, I asked myself what wonder-full things I could/would ponder about, or, to reclaim a word that has maybe been overly-sexualised to our detriment, fantasise about.
These resulting notions may surprise anyone who knows me, and they make me self-conscious to share, but honestly I can lose myself delightedly in these fantasies, and I imagine that being in such a state of delight must be so good for the vibrational relationship we have with our future reality:
Having the power of flight, and swooping around on the treetops – as I used to do in my dreams…
Dancing flowingly and expansively and effortlessly around a huge space – whether ballet, polka, tango… – as if in a beautiful flowing dress
Nature communicating with me [I stumbled upon a deer in the woods mins after bringing this to mind – we had an encounter! <3]
The metaphysical world communicating with me (like Lorna Byrne, Esther Hicks, Diana Cooper, Theresa Caputo…) <3
[I’ll leave this blank for other notions to come to me…]
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Last few mins before we pause this morning. I haven’t meditated today. I should say that, alongside yesterday’s good work, I was handling really tough depression… very wisely, kindly, self-compassionately and like a boss. Please give me words to help me develop my Wonder-Lusting today. I know it’s in the ‘rewiring my future space’, so yes, bring it on…
Sweet soul. Go in. Even for 5 minutes. We’ll give you something helpful.
***5minsMed***
The real Wonder is that your Baseline Conscious Experience IS ‘WONDER’… All you need do is ‘unclamp’ the mind-state that contracts around the underlying Wonder.
Look at the child at play = wonder, in the present now moment.
Look at the adult at work = fret, stress, project, past/future.
At any given moment, by coming into the present now moment, that Wonder state can be re-accessed.
Yes, the clamping… That’s what it was yesterday.
It’s tough stuff, we know. But you can retrain yourself to unclamp at the first given micro-signal of mental clamping. Just don’t accept or tolerate it as a welcome state anymore; reject it as a function of your brain. Make ‘softening’ your default activity… and let the Wonder flow in. Soften into Wonder. That’s your route in, again and again.
You’ll know you’ve softened when you hear yourself say, or the simplest things, “Wow, that’s wonderful.”
3a: rapt attention or astonishment at something awesomely mysterious or new to one’s experience
b: a feeling of doubt or uncertainty
Interesting to remember that wonder means to marvel – and also, to feel uncertainty…
Give the opportunity for WONDER-FULLY to mean exactly what it says on the tin: amazingly, remarkably, extremely good/pleasing; exciting amazed admiration, rapt attention, the sense of something ‘awesomely mysterious’; a marvel, a miracle.
Yes! I played yesterday with alternative ‘WWW’ wordings, each giving a different vibe or inner warmth:
“What if it all Works out Wonderfully?”
“What if it all is Working out Wonderfully?”
“Wow, it all is Working out Wonderfully!”
“Wow, it all Worked out Wonderfully!”
It’s a real discipline. How many times do you need to immerse in these phrases to override the default mode brain and rewire the pathways?
10,000 times – like the 10,000 things of Taoism – each single one needs to be seen, loved and cherished like a child in its own right.
You are invited to PROCLAIM the wonderfulness of all things… and of how, actually, against the narrative it is so tempting (word used advisedly) to swallow up and perorate upon, everything truly is working out wonderfully.
Last night, we watched a film about the human rights abuses and aberrations of justice at Guantanamo Bay – The Mauritanian (2021), about the torture, and then 14 years of detention without charge, of Mohamedou Slahi. The only way I can make sense of these things is by going back to my understanding of life before life and after death. (See: Your Soul’s Plan et others)
That’s exactly so. Pull the lens right out, way, way beyond the natural (or unnatural) life span of the human life on earth…
… and incorporating the karmic service we offer each other in this life via the roles we play out for each other.
Souls like Mohamedou Slahi are here to offer great service to the evolution of consciousness on this place, and yes, often via their intense suffering. It has ever been thus on this earth paradigm, no? From Jesus to Baha’u’llah; from Haiti to Syria; from Yemen to Theresienstadt.
Yes, my goodnesss.
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Heavens I just watched this 20 minute documentary: My Brother’s Keeper (2021). Mohamedou Slahi reunites (in Mauritania) with his Guantanamo Bay guard and friend, Steve… who unbeknownst to Slahi went on to embrace Islam after Slahi’s release, so inspired had he been by Slahi’s faith. It is a remarkable documentary. And Slahi is such a man of love (and humour) that my heart just melts.
I have also been watching Homeland, where the lead American character, an Al-Qa’ida prisoner of war, also accepts Islam. It’s fictional, but these programmes are reminding me: when you come close to the essence of religion, it can transform you…
I had this thought. If I am to carry on my life ‘without religion’ (as I have for the last 12 years now), I may need to pray more – not less – than the average practising devotee. No? If religion provides the trodden path towards a ‘holy’ life, non-religion requires us to tread the path ourselves, more consciously, not less. I am not speaking about this lightly. If someone read this off the cuff they might think it trivial and trite… But I know I’m pointing myself to something of value here. These films have re-minded me of something I once knew, as a younger person – that my heart could benefit from now… if it truly yearns for ‘wonder’.
True wonder exists where the lens is fully pulled out, to include all that is life lived now on this plane, and equally, the consciousness of all else that indeed makes life the dynamic soul school that it really is.
Kristin talks of the ‘joys and sorrows’ of this human life. How best can I sense the safety, peace, health and ease in my life, and attune myself to it?
Again, with simplicity. Immense simplicity. If there are two options, take the simpler one, always.
I like that very much.
It’s a fun game to play too. You might enjoy it. Across the day – pause and identify options, and discern the ‘simpler option’. Write options down, and circle the Simpler Option. Be playful, but get into the habit of seeing that, in any one moment, there is always the option to go for that ‘psychic psimplicity’ we were talking about. This refers to our actions, but also our thought paths.
Yes. I was awake for 2.5 h last night, so cross and angry about my stepmother having convinced (or allowed??) my terminally-ill Dad to decide now to change his will to give all his assets to her in trust for her lifetime… My grief of the triple tragedies of the last two weeks (his diagnosis, and the loss of both my siblings’ pregnancies) turned to firey anger last night after my phone call with my Dad. I won’t go into the reasoning for my anger, but will say we (as a family) covered this conversation extensively a couple of years ago, and the decisions made about my Dad’s will then were made on grounds that count now.
So let’s play Taking the Simpler Option. What are your options with regards to this situation?
Chunter on for the next few days, and gather steam to tackle this
Call my sister who is going there to visit them today to ‘pre-warn’ her
Call my Dad and have the conversation today
What’s the Simpler Option?
3. Call my Dad and have the conversation – share my concerns and remind him of the thinking last time. Nip the plan in the bud.
Hm. It takes some courage to take the Simpler Option doesn’t it?
Yep. And inner clarity. It’s a really good practice, if you can set your mind to it, and if you are sincere about wanting safety, peace, health and ease for all.
May I take the Simpler Option consciously and cleanly across my days, little by little reducing the complexity in my life, and welcoming the clarity of psychic psimplicity.
I’m here to report back on ‘welcoming psychic psimplicity’. It is apparently hard for me to switch off the dopamine-chasing when there is no-one waiting at the end of a zoom call for me to turn up and interact. In other words, ‘holiday time’ arrives and my daily discipline goes haywire. This is partly because I am the ‘outwardly accountable’ type – or to Gretchin Rubin, an ‘obliger’; BUT, I realised, it’s also partly (that I’m depressed and guarded and out-of-sorts while not working) because I get such joy, such true dopamine, out of the work I do.
Yes, I certainly needed this week-long break from client bookings, and yes I need to be less over-loaded, and yes I need to set my schedule and my ‘offering menu’ to be more manageable… but I am enriched by the work I do. It gives me Joy. And it’s the Joy of Joining with others, in the field of dialogue and connection.
I love it when I see people growing at a deep, spiritual level – and experiencing their higher selves. And I’m just so lucky that my work, of wellbeing and peace-making, sits in that sphere, of spiritual growth.
I also thought of Janet Cundall’s joy in serving: “I love to serve! Thank you for letting me serve you!”
How can I sum it up?
I enJoy serving others in their journey of spiritual growth.
Does it sound a bit…?
Oop! Pause. Let the statement in. Let it land. This is a big and important step. You want to welcome psychic psimplicity?Well then, this statement is a profoundly important insight. If you wanted a filter to discern what is ‘extraneous’ in your life – or, what could be shaved off by Occam’s razor of psychic parsimony – then you couldn’t find a much better touchstone than this: I enJoy serving others in their journey of spiritual growth.
Why this statement? Because:
a) It is about your own particular Route to Joy (and we know, it’s not what Cosmopolitan told you it would be)
b) It hugely refines, defines and simplifies the Work you are engaged in. You simply ask: Does this work serve others’ spiritual growth? If yes, onwards. If not, drop it like it’s hot.
c) This is about energetic sustainability. If the work you do is bringing you Joy, it is nourishing you and filling you, and you will be able to do it forever.
d) It is also about spiritual sustainability. Your spirit and heart yearn for growth. Give away that which you wish to attain – remember that? Teach what you would really master. Yes? In other words, if you want to keep growing spiritually (or ‘evolving’, ‘developing’ – any word will do), you have to be consciously adding to the system. Your input is now required, as they say.
I see. ty. tyvm.
You know exactly what work Serves Others’ Spiritual Evolution and what doesn’t. How? By the way it makes you feel. The work that does not hit the mark leaves you feeling… dirty, tired, contaminated, regretful. And sometimes it’s not the work itself, as much as the spirit you undertake it in! This is advanced warrior training here, sweet friend.
Yes. It is…. I feel very soft inside. Show me…. Guide me…. Carry me…. Remind me…. Help me to remember and hold true. Let me be quiet about this, but not forget it! Let me absorb this insight deeply into my psyche, and heart and soul.
It is in your soul already, dear one. This is your very soul’s plan.
I want to add that all this is based on the assumption that we are alllll involved in spiritual evolution, as a default aspect of having a human life. Like, it’s not something ‘special’ or ‘esoteric’ or ‘mysterious’. Serving another’s spiritual growth is basically like being conscious of being a moving part/cog in someone’s complex lifetime machinery, and doing our cogly work well. No self-consciousness…. or self-congrats. Thank yew.
Also, I’d like to note that actually serving someone’s SG is a result of grace, not our personal brilliance. It’s a gift to us. Hence, “Thank you for letting me serve…”
It’s Radical Love, isn’t it? Because it’s about trusting the deep spiritual truth that we do actually support/serve ourselves best via… our service to others (aka STO). Counter-intuitive to a human; yet, it’s the absolute MO for a being unencumbered by an egoic mind.
Boom. <3
So now I can psychically psimplify my day by asking my Self:
How best can I serve others’ spiritual evolution today?
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After I wrote the above, yesterday, I later went out, and nearly crashed my car head on into a bus, with my daughter and her boyfriend in the car, having swung out into the wrong lane in a distracted (and hyper) state. Luckily there happened to be a lay-by I could swerve into. I arrive here today, very much in need of guidance to calm down, get back into my body, forgive myself for yesterday, and reset my mind.
Let’s go in – but properly. 20 mins. With some self-compassion.
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In that beautiful mediation I recalled that sustained meditation is a super power, because it disconnects the brain’s dopamine seeking, by dint of our just not responding to the pangs for stimulation for 20mins. On top of that, we can infuse ourselves with something good, like ‘affectionate breathing’.
Insight arising in mediation: Maybe the O in SOSE stands for ‘OUR’ as much as for ‘OTHERS”. My spiritual growth can not happen separately to yours, and vice versa. And, the notion of ‘the other’ is not exactly within the concepts of ONEness.
Hence it would be:
So now I can psychically psimplify my day by asking my Self:
How best can I serve our spiritual evolution today?
I felt that doing the Neff meditation was in service of our collective spiritual evolution. We affect each other, especially when we are doing a conscious practice that sets the intention of feeling affection and kindness towards others.
So what do you say?
You can use the two words, others’ and our, interchangeably. Sometimes you need to acknowledge that you and another individual are indeed separate entities. In that recognition you can take transactional action between the two of you, all the time knowing that what benefits the one benefits the both and the all.
Got it.
So can we play with this today? Can we answer the question?:
I can psychically psimplify my day by asking my Self:
How best can I serve others’/our spiritual evolution today?
Help me take the self-seriousness or self-importance out of it.
Well, as your beloved Mum said, “It’s got to be fun!”
Aha. Great guidance! It should feel light and joyful. And JOINy.
These are my thoughts:
Get my house in order – do the routine and be dressed
Be ready to snip the old..
Think of who is in need today.. Who is suffering or sad. Reach out warmly!
It all makes me baffled. Guide me please.
Here is the guidance you are looking for. It’s about seeking a new flavour of wholeyness. Getting whole means attending to all our own needs – food, shelter, stability – with as much simplicity as possible. When those needs are attended to, then we StartTheWork of the day: SOSE. It’s fun! Much more fun than dragging our own needs out all day.
So ask yourself: What do I need to do to meet my basic needs today? Then do those things. Then see what’s on the horizon for SOSE. But use focus, and psychic psimplicity.
Ok well I need to do my daily routine.
Prescribe it to yourself then.
AT’s Daily Routine @ 03apr21
QT (Plan + DoDs + Meditation) @7am
Body Hour (Qigong + Shower + Dress) @8am
Decksfast (Clear the decks + Breakfast) @9am
SOSE [Serving Our Spiritual Evolution] @10-1pm
Walk & Talk Lunch Hour @1-3pm
SOSE [Serving Our Spiritual Evolution] @3-6pm
Home Hour (Family comms + Supper + Home tidy) @6pm
Good. Let’s do it. And then let’s start Serving Our Spiritual Evolution
I am a couple of hours behind because it’s the weekend… And I had a late night. I was drinking.
You want us to judge the drinking, and condemn. We won’t do that. But we will say: wow, imagine if this routine was yours 365 days a year. How joyous and fulfilling and easy would that be?!
I heard on the radio today a reminder that it’s Maundy Thursday, the day when JC said:
Amen.
Yesterday, a beautiful Vibrational Arena was created at our home and we (me, G, girls, Dad and J) did all Join wonderfully. The girls were amazing in contributing with cooking and chatting and hosting… And I took seriously the commandment to go softly and focus on the Vibrational Arena for Joining. I managed my energy and my boundaries – reasonably well. We all felt close. My Dad felt held and loved I think, and J too. It was a blessed day.
Today is my first day of my Five Day Stay-at-Home Retreat over Easter. Guide me to use it wisely and well. I am keen to rest and to get clarity – and also to take actions that will impact the future positively.
Time to move your body.
Yes, it sure is. I haven’t walked properly for days… Nor done my qigong.
That is why you feel heavy.
I’ve been eating and drinking like a merry Tudor too.
Holiday season – and hard emotional challenges. You are doing really well. You could be well proud of yourself.
I have felt a little bit unbalanced.
We know, dear soul. You are holding space for a lot. You have worked extremely hard since Christmas. You have had big social occasions for the first time in months. You’ve had the vaccine chugging through you. You are still reeling from the shocks upon your family. You are pleased for the week’s break, but also missing its routine. You have your beautiful youngest home which is a new focus of your heart’s attention. The clocks have changed, so suddenly your evenings don’t feel like evenings.
Ty. All this. And I feel a little bit dissociative – lots of staring at Instagram, ‘holiday drinking’, compulsive Homeland watching…
So what practices get you back in your body and your world?
Tidying, cleaning, sorting, qigong, walking… People keep f-ing messaging me! Maybe I need to tell people I’m going offline a bit. I LONG TO MAKE MYSELF AVAILABLE TO DOWNLOADS OF NEW WISDOM… without forcing it. But it’s so uncomfy to get to that stillpoint!
Sounds like you are trying, or wanting, or desiring, to create a Vibrational Arena for Joining withyourself.
YES!
I am!
I’ve so over-serviced my relationships in work and life… to the degree I’m not doing so well. The judging, the criticising, the over-sharing, the poor boundaries…
Oop. Back you come, sweet soul! Let’s refocus.
You seek to create a Vibrational Arena for Joining with yourself.
This means… Well, let’s go in for a few minutes and find out what it means…
Ok. Ty.
***15mins with Insight Timer***
It means to become more connected every day, to the source of all creation, of all knowledge, of all knowing.
Yes. Like an antenna reaching out of us… mingling with the higher frequencies.
When you ask yourself – what is the purpose of my day, and find that the answer you hear is ‘to channel spirit’ you know you have arrived at a new juncture.
What does it mean to channel spirit?
It means to get out of the way of the egoic self (easier said than done, but part of the overall life learning and mastery of self) and Make Way For, Yield Unto… something more knowing than the human mind alone can ever be.
Is this like having psychic abilities?
Every one can be said to have psychic abilities. You know that. We are talking about Making Way For, Yielding Unto something greater than the parsimonious day to day concerns.
Remind me – parsimonious?
[Parsimonious: not willing to spendmoney or to give or use a lot of something]
Stingy..
Miserly, begrudging… In other words, inherent in your day to day concerns, there is a lack of generosity. Hence the egoic influence – making for selfishness, or self-seekingness. The spirit channelling we are talking about here has such an infinite sense of abundance that it can barely ‘contain itself’.
I think of Teal Swan… the generosity of her teachings. And Abraham-Hicks.
There’s an outward flow, isn’t there? Like a dam broke, once and for all.
And what would that look like for or in me?
To be simple and honest, it would look like Joy. Joy is the antithesis of parsimony, because it ‘wells up’ from an infinite well.
Sometimes my Joy is limited…
Not so much that. More… you haven’t always prioritised Joy as the key calling in your life. Right?
Aha. True. Like ‘follow your bliss’ – for a long time I had no idea what that meant! I do a little more now, but there’s some way to go….
Try the exhortation to ‘follow your joy’ in order to develop your Vibrational Arena for Joining with yourself.
Ooh. Ok. I will. Help me understand TRUE joy – not dissociative zoning out – but TRUE full rich abundant up-welling JOY. Tysm. Amen.
And remember – we are channelling something new here.
If Radical Love is the purpose, good healthy boundaries are the key. Counter-intuitive? This came up for me in a Listening Space session yesterday, when I enquired of myself about my unpleasant incidents of finding myself being critical or judgemental of others – in particular those I am in a working relationship with, or a supportive relationship. It all, I discovered, came down to poor boundary setting on my part. When I have good boundaries, I have no need to sound off about others. I can practise it with clients, so now it’s time to practise it with others I am in a less clearcut relationship with. It’s especially those who I think I am supporting non-professionally, and who, because of lack of good boundaries on my part, I then think should be reciprocating to me in some way. Not nice…
Easy tiger. Gentle on yourself. This is good work. Yes, the topic of healthy boundaries is still there to be worked on.
What might I learn today? I should update you btw. Yesterday I had my Covid-19 vaccination – feeling a bit ropey, but not too bad, thank goodness! Also, today, in Day 3 of lockdown easing, we are having our second Rule of 6 picnic in the garden (first was on Mon – G’s mum’s birthday!). My beloved Dad and J are coming, and my gorgeous girls will be here too, with me & G.
Pick up Bringers of the Dawn..
Ah yes. Page 146. ‘You must be able to master who you are.‘ Physically, psychologically, psychically…
Do you spot the reference to people being ‘coded to teach themselves‘?
Yes. Page 147.
Teaching yourself about Personal Boundaries is a key aspect of mastering who you are. Do you understand that? This is not secondary or additional work, it is core curriculum.
And how can I help ‘teach myself’ today?
The mark of healthy personal boundaries is excellent energy management. Do you hear that? Excellent energy management means
a) the will to take action early as needed, not procrastinate out of fear of the other and
b) the will to expend minimal energy in pursuit of your good relationships.
A misunderstanding of the human mind is that ‘one must expend maximal energy to show another that we love them’. The opposite could almost be said to be true. Why? Because JOINING is the purpose and work of human relations, and hand-splashing (or exerting energy to force results) is the antithesis of JOINING.
Were you to sit and meditate on your patio all morning in anticipation of your father’s arrival, you would be better placed to meet him, and the space would be more effectively set for his arrival, than if you spent three hours rushing about cooking and sprucing and … [you can say it…] fussing.
Fussing? Ha! Very sassy. I hear you.
This is not to say you can’t prepare lunch and wipe the winter’s dirt off the outside loo. But, you must master your inner state, so that all you do is in vibrational alignment with the impact you are seeking to engender, which is JOINING.
So the spirit I bring to preparing the space is as important as the actual tasks I accomplish.
More important. We are talking about two completely different timelines here.
Fussy vs fuss-free.
There is drama in that statement. Go back to the origins of this dialogue: good boundaries permit good joining.
You are asking yourself, ‘Where are the boundaries of my healthy energy expenditure?’ – especially as your body is still managing the effects of the vaccine. But more than anything, you are asking yourself, ‘What vibrational arena am I creating for maximal Joining today?’
‘Vibrational arena’… Ooh I love that term.
You can apply it to your work, your relationships, your home.
I really like this. Today I will play with this power we have to create vibrational arenas for maximal Joining. Anything else you’d like me to know?
Be soft… softer still… That’s it. How delicate is this work… How acutely delicate! Do not under-estimate the vibrational impact of your every thought and action. Bring softness to your thinking and to your actions. Know that, in the higher realms, a thought can launch an avalanche. Therefore, take care that your thoughts are representative of the avalanche you are seeking to set forth – an avalanche of confusion, an avalanche of love, an avalanche of sadness, or an avalanche of healing? All options – or timelines – are available to you, creative beings. Therefore, go upstream, go to the top of the snowy mountain, and set the course of your timeline consciously.
I set an intention of Joining – amongst us as a family. Gently. Softly. Ease-ily.
So today I leave the house to travel more-than-five-miles-from-the-house for the first time since I last December (ie about 4 months ago). I’m going up to London, a day before Lockdown eases, to see my beautiful sis and family, to offer some love and support – and Joining – after their shocking and distressing week. Also, my darling ASV will be coming across London and catching a lift back with me for a month at home.
Work with me please, to get my heart and mind in the right place. I feel tired (the clocks changed and I’m an hour short of sleep). Also, after nearly three straight months of Lockdown 3, my body is somewhat startled at the idea of moving itself for 2 x 3hour drives, and having an afternoon in the company of hUmAnS (however beloved!!).
Settle, settle, settle. Remember your image of coffee granules settling in a cafetiere? Or sand settling in a bucket of sandy water? Let this sensation and practice be the order of your day.
I have felt quite ‘stirred’ up over the past week, and have spun into excess of emotion (highs and lows) that have left me remorseful, confused, embarrassed and ‘unsettled’.
Be aware of the racing within you. Watch it. Observe it. Be compassionate towards it. And then invite that ‘racing’ part of you to settle. If you can tame the wild horses that race, and bring them under your will, you really will be able to sit with people more effectively.
