Phew! I didn’t throw up [upset stomach in the night]
Phew! I slept.
Phew! I’m dressed and ready.
Phew! We’ve interviewed twenty people for the research project!
What I love about the ‘Phew! First’ approach is the building, accumulating, burgeoning, relieving sense of Having Got Stuff Done. What’s the opposite? It’s jumping hurdles without acknowledging the achievement because at the very point of leaping, one is already only focussed on The Next Hurdle. And then what happens? You never get to complete the Stress Response Cycle! And then your body tenses up at the thought of Tasks, because they seem un-fricking-ending, relentless and like a ceaseless punishment with no release, or reward.
Tough stuff! And great, awesome breakthroughs! It’s as if you are learning to rewire your brain towards relief, reward and ‘learned optimism’.
Learned optimism. Great idea.
Learned Optimism is a super-power, a magic muscle. Can you imagine, can you imagine, can you imagine… everything working out BEAUTIFULLY?
Ha! Tbh, sometimes I can, and sometimes I can’t. ‘Imagining’ takes some energy, doesn’t it? And the luxury of day-dreamy time…
Spot on. But it can also be about simply visualising options. Think of the TV programme, The Good Place – a euphemistic name for heaven. They also talk about The Bad Place and The Medium Place. So for any upcoming event or scenario, can you imagine, can you imagine, can you imagine…
The Bad Outcome
The Medium Outcome
The Good Outcome and…
The Beautiful Outcome!
Sure! Ok I have a colleague meeting this morning:
The Bad Outcome: we end up chatting about unrelated stuff, and I waste the morning, and then have to do the work myself anyway
The Medium Outcome: we get a bit confused, make some small decisions, and then I have to do the work myself anyway, a bit unsure if it’s what we agreed
The Good Outcome: we use the time to get super-clarity on what happens next
The Beautiful Outcome!: {The Good Outcome} plus we bond and inspire each other
Oh… Wow… That was a cool exercise! Talk about honing intention.
Learned optimism starts with simply visualising options and outcomes, and tapping into the felt sense behind each. How do you feel about each of your options above?
The Bad Outcome: cross, judgey, frustrated
The Medium Outcome: glum, worried, dumped upon
The Good Outcome: excited, positive, relieved
The Beautiful Outcome: moved, emotional!
Then, you’ve got the idea! Did you know you had the possibility for this morning’s meeting to be moving, emotional, inspiring, bonding? Can you lean into that possibility?
Taking the optimistic view is a two part process:
Visualise it by using the Bad/Medium/Good/Beautiful Outcome procedure, including getting a ‘felt sense’ of each.
Then, play with the felt sense and the detail of the Good and Beautiful Outcomes, gently, playfully. This is the Target Slide of Reality Transurfing.
Bring ease to this exercise, and continually back up your present moment moves with Phew!, so that you’re also in the present appreciating your self and ‘what is’, while visualising the beautiful outcomes.
Feelings of… angst. So much work and no proper break?
Easy tiger; take it gently. Getting that ‘rewarding feeling’ comes from the Driving forward and the Soothing after.
Yes, my actual time in the savanna (eyeball to eyeball with trainees/clients in ‘performance’ mode) is fairly limited. If I think about the actual training ahead, I’ve got 2 hours on Monday (with 4 groups of primary children!) and 3.5 hours on Tuesday with a group I’ve already done a successful session with.
It’s the prepping that takes so much time. And the build up on comms behind me as I do that.
You became a mother around this day, some many years ago. How about that as an alternative perspective?
Amazing, isn’t it…? <3
And you had a great idea about a book, last time we met.
Yes. AC’s DoDs based on my diaries. With illustrations.
As a means to ST – Share Tools.
Afternoon client work…. (People are often more relaxed.)
P L E A S E.
eg 1.30-5.
Yes.
Morning writing and MEDS.
Yes.
VA to arrange timings/comms.
Yes.
Happy nucleus accumbens? (Reward and Reinforcement)
YES.
Set boundaries around my work.
YES.
But what about jollies to London/Birmingham for clients?
n o p e the nucleus accumbens does not l i k e it
No more endless bespoke work.
Nope.
In order to really get the ‘reward and reinforcement’ feeling of the nucleus accumbens, work with paying attention – and co-creating with yourself – the Sense of Relief. This is what your dear ANS is looking for because it equates RELIEF with SAFETY and SECURITY.
How…?
PREFACE internal statements with the word and feeling, ‘Phew!’ and see what happens.
Instead of ‘I’m running 20 mins late!’ say, ‘Phew, I have 10 mins to do the next thing!’
Use the word/feeling ‘Phew!’ to reinforce relief and reinforcement.
Yes
Phew, I’ve just done all that printing I was worried about…
Yes.
Preface internal statements with the word and feeling, ‘Phew!’ and see what happens.
So, dear Body, how are we feeling after working on ‘Always Tense’ for a bit?
Body: Learning to ‘complete the stress response cycle‘ has been a game-changer. We like it very much indeed. Thank you!
Burnout by Amelia and Emily Nagoski
I know right?! Powerful stuff. And to do this stuff consciously, and watch the body respond in oxytocin/endorphin shifts, is pure magic. I feel like I’m developing the ability to engage in much more fulfilling and diverse days (out on the savanna, lion-wrestling) because my body now more-readily knows I’ll make it back to the village and the tribe and all will be safe.
Previously I’d thought of de-stressing activities as a kind of ‘nice to have’ addition, or ‘lifestyle choice’ – but overall, yet more ‘activities to force into the day’. Now I see that, if I tend towards completing the stress response cycle consciously each day (and in greater depth at weekends, and eg via TRE/breathing exercises), I’ll have my body’s trust and willingness to go back out on to the savanna to ‘play’ again the following day. Awesome.
Body: Recognising that the body and mind need conscious wavelength variation, escalation/de-escalation, ramping up/ramping down, is all part of the fun of being able to do the things that fulfil, nourish, excite and soothe. Like this:
Ah yes, and I’m also reminded of Paul Gilbert’s three Emotional Regulation Systems:
Paul Gilbert’s Three Emotional Regulation Systems
When the Drive System and the Soothing System really commit to collaborating, they kind of learn to edge out the would-be-ever-dominant Threat System. Right?
Right. That’s a committed relationship required between the Drive and Soothing systems. Immense trust required between them. “I’ll do this for you, if you do this for me.”
Yeah! Because, although I long for relaxation/safety/losing weight/oxytocin/opiates (readily available via Soothing) it appears I crave the dopamine rush of the Drive System, which maybe is what stops me settling with ‘at-home/online’ work, for example? But hang on, what is this ‘nucleus accumbens‘ mentioned in the Drive system?
*Googles:nucleus accumbens*
CRUMBS, man! Why did I not know about the nucleus accumbens before?! It seems it may be key in understanding some of my major personal topics like depression, executive functioning, reward, motivation, Getting Stuff Done, addiction……
Some brief google results:
‘There is accumulating evidence that the nucleus accumbens (NAc) plays an important role in the pathophysiology of depression. Given that clinical depression is marked by anhedonia (diminished interest or pleasure), dysfunction of the brain reward pathway has been suggested as contributing to the pathophysiology of depression.’ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2475798/
‘As a whole, the nucleus accumbens has a significant role in the cognitive processing of motivation, aversion, reward (i.e., incentive salience, pleasure, and positive reinforcement), and reinforcement learning (e.g., Pavlovian-instrumental transfer); hence, it has a significant role in addiction.’ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nucleus_accumbens
‘The nucleus accumbens definitely plays a central role in the reward circuit. Its operation is based chiefly on two essential neurotransmitters: dopamine, which promotes desire, and serotonin, whose effects include satiety and inhibition.’ https://thebrain.mcgill.ca/flash/i/i_03/i_03_cr/i_03_cr_par/i_03_cr_par.html
I am excited to think more about my aversion/reward dichotomy! Reward. Reward. Reinforcement. Reward. This is good. Time to get up.
Get that ‘rewarding’ feeling
PS. This touches on compassion satisfaction too – the antidote to compassion fatigue. Important!!
PPS. I dreamt last night of finding a book in a bookshop and it was just like DoDs. It was stylised as FICTION and cutely illustrated with ink images of the ‘character’ and laid out in funky ways across the page. A thick-ish hardback: c365 pages = 1 a day / year in the life of this whimsical character rather like a person I know… It was placed at eyeline level on one of those rotating display stands… because it was pretty. I took a copy and held it tight… “This!” I thought. “This is how DoDs needs to be.”
So are we thinking Adrian Mole, Bridget Jones..? Over to Ariel Compton?
Last night, reading the Focusing book, I was working through some of the questions to put to the body to ‘open up the vast space’ of the body. One of the later questions was to enquire about the body’s background ‘always’ state – like ‘always tired’ or ‘always waiting for others’. I asked my body what its always state was and it replied immediately and with ringing clarity:
“Always tense.”
Aha… Well that’s useful information, but also disconcerting… ‘Always tense’ can not be good for my body or for my loved ones or for my clients or for my self. Can you help me open this topic up a little?
Ok… I’ll take the briefest notes of what I hear internally as I go.
Always tense
Always ferociously tense
Always ferociously attached
Always ferociously attached to outcome
As if grasping the outcome by the collars and squaring up to it.
Isn’t this what they pay me for? To get the right outcome?
The magic is in the unplanned, co-created outcome.
Can you be more playful? More trusting? More curious towards the new?
Do you mean ‘less controlling’?
More playful, trusting, curious towards the new.
Let God In vs Edge God Out (Ego)? Attachment to outcome arises from fear arises from ego, right?
If God is creation, source, fresh reality in time… then yes, ‘let God in’. The question is: Can you trust that all that arises is perfect? Because if you can, then you really can relax – and let that tense feeling go. If on the other hand ‘But what if..?’ drives your choices and your decisions, then you are more likely to be held in tension. Your field of options is so very much narrower.
But I have to bring wisdom, discernment and intention! I can’t just turn up at a job and not hold the rudder in my hand!
Absolutely! But can you let the people you are with play with setting the direction and the course of travel? Can you let them choose the destination?
Ah, interesting. I suppose in the training I’m doing today (for university lecturers) there are a couple of options in terms of outcome:
A) Everyone learns my content and arrives at my conclusions / learning outcomes and off I sally into the sunset (my usual single aim)
B) I bring some concepts, info and #TOOLS, and then some group consultation is done, facilitated by my asking some enquiring questions of the team, and the team comes to its own conclusions – which it is more likely to own, use and enjoy.
The bottom line is for me to turn up at these events saying: I have some pieces of a jigsaw puzzle and you have the others. I can’t wait to see what you bring.
Beautiful.
I feel a shift in me. A little bit more relaxed. Less like I have to DO everything, and be responsible for EVERYTHING.
Remember how most of your best teaching arose from one simple stimulus and then stepping back to let the class be creative. Welcome back to this concept, and to trusting, trusting, trusting in the ‘outcome arising’, and to watching out for and warmly WELCOMING what the next person Brings to the Party. Leaving space for the next person to contribute what is in them is the key to relaxing in to trust.
I am one part of the jigsaw puzzle, and so are you and you and you. No one has to be in charge or control. We are co-creating together.
Body, what phrase sums all this up in the best way for you to feel less ‘always tense’ and more ‘always relaxed’?
Wait to see what others bring to the party
Spot on.
Wait to see what others bring to the party
*******
Man, this concept has been helpful. I’ve been feeling much less …urgent!! And therefore less tense. I’m more … watching, observing, receiving.
Also, I had this passing and so-significant thought one evening: ‘I don’t have to look after anyone‘. And I felt it in my body as a relaxing, down regulating gear change. This, I quickly noticed, was massive for me. It shows that the weight (carried since I was 21) of parenthood and ‘responsibility for looking after others’ is shifting. I hadn’t realised I’d been carrying it still, like Mother Courage without her children.
Also, it indicates to me that I am adjusting at last to my beautiful children growing up -and that the old grief around that has subsided? Things are in their natural state, and my children are independent. Whereas this felt like a bewildering blow for a while, suddenly, this week, in working on ‘always tense’, my children’s growing-up and becoming wondrously self-sufficient felt – I could glimpse it – like a reward for my parenting. It makes me very tender to say these things.
Love, love, love to you precious girls. May all blessings be upon you both and all that you do. Parenting you both has been the privilege and blessing of my lifetime. And now, we can all step into the next phase of this wonderful life, as three adults. Oh, my heart…
Let’s see what we each have to bring to the party. We’re all captains of our own ships now. How exciting.
*******
Last night I went to mid-winter gathering of some dozen truly magical women at a dear friend’s home. It was a ‘vegetarian bring and share’. Of course, that which everyone brought to the party made for the most amazing feast in which everything complemented everything and there was a perfect mix of savoury and puddings. If the host had tried to co-ordinate or direct us, it wouldn’t have been so easeful for her or for the guests… but the point is, she didn’t need to! Amen
You could say that, if you wanted to be understated!
What’s occurring?
Alignment, dear friend of our being. Alignment. Parallel lines switching and crossing like train tracks at an interchange.
Take me – us! – with you on the peace train, dear angels of light! Carry us upwards. Hear our prayers, our yearnings. Make us of the lightness and loveliness! Tell me more.
Decades have passed since you began to awaken under your 11:11 prodding. The Dark Night of the Soul was e p i c in you! Well done. You survived, you thrived even. You waited, you walked, you cried, you healed, you implored, you pleaded, you thanked, you bore witnessed, you erred, you sought forgiveness, you showed mercy, you received the love of the Ages in your heart. This is a life lived in fullness. This is what we needed of you.
It felt like I was burning karma bonfires every day for … a while. 25 years or so?
You were being ‘opened up’. You were in the safe hands of your teachers though. And they included your precious light-bringing children. Oh my! How they advanced your learning! Blessed be their precious gifting souls!
And then they grew up and I wept…! I am hugely proud of them, thankful to them. May they be BLESSED by all angels; uplifted and carried in their lives by the highest love, the purest wisdom, the grandest JOY! May they live their life purposes with freedom, fulfilment and festivity!
Siempre.
And today? As it happens, we have a family gathering here today.
Auspicious! 😉
You knew!
Nothing is a coincidence.
Help me set my heart aright today. I have Things To Do aplenty!
Relax. Take 100 pebbles and hand them out as messages today.
Like as comms, emails, words…
Exactly. Each pebble is painted with a symbol of peace, unity, love and light [PULL]. No matter what you are talking about (yeah, do your tax return, lady!), we grant you the special privilege of handing out a PULL Pebble with every communication. Know and trust that your words, written or spoken, will carry a special vibration of PULL today. Go scatter with love and trust.
Take 100 pebbles of love, and hand them out as messages today.
Ah! Excellent. Ty. I feel like we need to ‘pray just to make it today’. Our government is performing such darkness. Our planet is under such strain. The international field is at tipping point. May my being add unto peace today. Help me set my frequency for the day so that I may be effective and efficient, without either draining myself or throwing edgy, noisy, twangy vibes out in to my surroundings. May I be a source of peace unto myself and to my world.
***PrayerMed***
When we called you a sovereign being we opened up a new vein of thinking for you. It is ahead for the exploration and mining. Let this be a joyful process. It is no coincidence that you should be watching The Crown. HMQEII is an excellent model of sovereignty.
I am learning from her… uprightness. It is like watching Downton Abbey again. The poise. The togetherness. I need a strong spine to get through these days.
A strong spine but also a calm interiorised mind. You know very well that as you look outwards, you start to drain energy outwards too. Where the mind goes the qi flows. You are invited to bring your attention inwards more and more. You have discovered a little bit about planned or conscious dissociation – not the unhealthy traumatised kind, but the healthy nurturing kind. Over time, you are going to learn to dissociate compassionately. In other words, you will learn to have full confidence in the healing capacity of yourself and your clients so that you no longer need to carry their burdens with you, or go out of your sustaining qi field in order to offer them support.
This is exceptional. I note that I am asked to do training in all the topics I need to work on.
I think I might have stumbled upon a new potential branding yesterday. What do you think.
MOST EXCELLENT. This is all you have asked for and dreamed of. TAKE IT. Receive this wisdom now.
Know that you are so deeply loved. If you could but comprehend the amount of love that flows from Source to You at any one second you would keel over. Your task across a life time – this goes for all humans – is to develop the capacity to recognise your own perfect lovableness. Yes, even though xyzabc123… Yes, in spite of and because of allllll those wonderful aspects of your humanity. Fallen angels all. The Fall from Grace was designed to give you each the immense gift of feeling, experiencing and bathing in the recognition that you were never of the unforgiven. Can you comprehend that? This is the purpose of this journey: to discover your perfection was intact all along. Because once you really see how perfect you are, you will melt into a thousand tears of acceptance, recognition and joy.
Beautiful. Thank you. What does this mean for us on a day to day basis?
In every activity, recognise you can take one of two perspectives:
I am in the wrong here and must do something to make up for the deficit
Here I am in perfect completeness
Try it.
***
Later:
TFW I am so deeply loved then everyone else I meet is too…. Hello person on the street – you are so deeply loved. Hello funny colleague of mine – you are so deeply loved.
As AT carry on with the AT.com blogging DoDs along 3 tracks (and develop workshops), and – ooh interesting option – book December OUT for Carnival and Typesetting/Self-publishing the 3 books:
My new MEDS – tools for mental wellbeing
Good Chat – tools for having better conversations
CoDialogues – tools for facilitating dialogues
What do you say?
“9.04.44am”
🙂 Ty. Is this really the case?
Share tools – for fun, for learning, for discernment, for freedom, for relief…! To stop ‘impressing’ others – ah, what blessed relief you will feel this year as you leave ‘impressing’ behind. Impressing yourself on others has exhausted and saddened you. Offering up tools is a different matter: it’s like being the person standing on the roadside at a marathon holding out cups of water to passing runners – those runners who do need water will scoop a cup up gratefully and run on; those who don’t will pass by…but still be touched and encouraged by the support. Do you see? This is what you have wanted for so long! This is freedom from self-doubt, because there is an abundance to sharing tools freely!
Re DoDs Ltd – ASK what your options are! Learn about running companies, once and for all!
And for now…?
Be of the positive 1% on this planet, and be playful about it. Play gently with the idea that nothing ‘matters’ because there is no ‘matter’. Relax, loosen up, play nicely – and in this way will you generate upflow for the planet and the people around you. Upflow is the stimulation of frequencies of joy, relief, confidence, courage, optimism, determination, acceptance and receiving. It is hopping on the high-flying disc and letting it carry you across marvellous landscapes like a magic rug in heaven!
Be of the playfully positive 1%
Next day:
Prayer.
May I fly high in playfulness today and be commited to sharing my tools with others. May I throw myself into the generosity of this work. May I play nicely all day long with spirit and joy. May I commit to SPEAKING TO OTHERS (via email) with freedom, clarity and TRUTH. Bless Nicci on this day. Bless Roy. Bless all our family. Peace upon this planet. Amen.
Thank you. I appreciate – and want – this. Please go ahead. May God help me listen and respond. May my heart and mind resonate with you, highest power of my being.
You are tired. This needs to stop. You need to refresh yourself.
How should I do this?
By kvelling over yourself. By being proud of yourself. By acting in ways that make you proud of your days. You have been learning about rewards, and motivation. You are learning, now at this important time in your life, to summon your Will for good.
My mindfulness work and habit trackers are helping me with this. I’ve been thinking again about magic morning routines.
Yes! The river forms new pathways through rock by the soft daily chafing of its waters.
I can energise myself to form habits.
Form habits of immaculate self-care, so that you feel free and liberated by afternoon-time to be the creative soul you are! Your mission this year is to ‘share tools’. This requires the creation of pools of empty space for writing, filming, posting. To create pools of empty space, you need rigorous morning routines of self-care so that you can really bask in the peace and creativity and focus of the afternoon.
What are the Magic Morning habits? Please share them with me while simultaneously granting me the understanding of Rewards, so that I can summon by best morning energy to undertake the routine activities which will support creative, connected, tool-sharey afternoons.
MEDSAN Morning Offices of immaculate self-care – in any order/timings
[Kitchen (you tidied up the night before)]
QT – private! this is your summoning time! your prayer time! (Medsan)
Reward for the morning: Sit down at 12 midday for creative / client work of sharing tools – which will result in the ‘mutual positive regard’ you are actually nourished by.
Reward for the afternoon: An evening of delicious food, relaxation, socialising, media, social media and unwinding for the next day.
***20minMed – healing, prayer, connection***
Thank you for the reconnection to prayer… It’s so physical. Please God, may I absorb this knowing…
A directed morning of MEDSAN Morning Offices
is rewarded by
a creative, connected afternoon of ‘mutual positive regard’
is rewarded by
an evening of unwinding, receiving, being with loved ones.
Grant me power in my system to perform the MEDAN Morning Offices.
MEDSAN Morning Offices of immaculate self-care – in any order/timings
Med: QT – this is the summoning time / prayer time
Ex: Walk + qigong
Diet: Brunch + Lunch prep + Supps + Kitchen tidy
Shower: Shower + Dress + Laundry/Room tidy
Admin: MBAdmin – comms + finances
Network: Website / brochures / marketing
And now we are rooted
Reward for the morning: Rooted now, I sit down at 12 midday for creative / client work of sharing tools – which will result in the ‘mutual positive regard’ you are actually nourished by.
Reward for the afternoon: An evening of delicious food, relaxation, socialising, media, social media and unwinding for the next day.
I understand more than ever now that the Peak Experience is an inside job. It’s not about experiences booked or purchased, or attainments reached, or achievements achieverised – but about the alignment of the inner state, and an up-reaching to peace, unity, love and light in any moment or situation. This is the power button pressed and the heart unveiled on the battlefield.
Inner voice of my being, what would you have me know and remember from this experiment?
Your voice emanates through you, dear Heart. Do not feel you have to wait for us to speak through or to you. We are one with you now. You can hear and translate the message of your heart as a simultaneous translator – one word at a time as you have done for years. Relax and listen, relax and listen. Your mission for next year is to share what you know.
In the Peak Project you learnt to strip away expectation. You were drawn to study the Tao Te Ching in this project so that you could get comfortable with the habit of relaxing into ‘what is’, rather than chipping away at reality. That is why you ended on the note of ‘relinquishing judgment and accepting and appreciating what is right here, right now.’ You moved towards the Still Point. You learnt practices that could channel your natural inclination towards peace. You played beautifully with the Peace Frequency. You settled into acceptance and appreciation with equanimity. You worked on yourself… ‘for the last time’. By this is meant, the initial self-training is done. To proceed it is imperative to share what you know.
That is moving and exciting and daunting to me. Shall we read our last chapter?
No. Wait. First give thanks.
Lao Tzu, spirit of Knowing, of Being, of Receiving, of Accepting, of Flowing with the Way. Thank you for all the teaching, moulding and reassuring you have provided me with over these past months. May I go on to live by the Tao in my day to day life. May I absorb all that you have taught me. Please stand by me as I seek to follow this new mission to Share What I Know. Grant me softness, humility, wisdom and truth. Stand next to me and sprinkle my words with real Knowledge, and ensure that as much as possible I act as a channel for truth, rather than a broadcaster of my own sense of self. Let me remove self from my work, and instead support the connection of people with their own perfect truths. Let that be my goal and my gift to others. Thank you for your writing and your legacy and all that is gifted to us by following the Way of the Tao. Amen.
-81- Sincere words are not elegant; elegant words are not sincere. The good person does not argue; the person who argues is not good. The wise do not have great learning; those with great learning are not wise. True Persons do not hoard. Using all they have for others, they still have more. Giving all they have to others, they are richer than before. The way of heaven is to benefit and not to harm. The way of the True Reason is to assist without striving in the unfolding of the story of the earth. (The Tao Te Ching 81)
May I not hoard that I which I have received in insights, tools and learnings, but rather use all I have for others, and give all I have to others, so that I may be blessed to assist with striving in the unfolding of the story of the earth. This is the prayer I offer up today, for the year ahead and beyond. Teach me how to share what I know, dear holy forces of peace, unity, love and light. Clear my ethereal body of ego, fear, hesitation and doubt. Plant certainty, clarity and simplicity in my being, and gift me the energy, vitality and fitness to contribute to the unfolding of the story of the earth.
In past weeks, certain individuals have stepped forward in our society, each emanating a powerful forcefield, and acting like channels of certain frequencies. My beloved G used the brilliant phrase ‘resonant archetypes’ to describe the phenomenon (which he had been thinking about simultaneously/independently to me…!). G suggested we are all aligning with one or another archetype, and that some archetypes invite one to align behind them and some archetypes invite one to network with them. Yes!
This is the line of thought I’d been following:
I had followed Stormzy’s rebuttal of the PM and media channels, and his immense spiritual grace and power – and thought, yes, here we have a voice of the new generation, and the new era. I resonate with this, and am so relieved to see this thinking made manifest in the heart of our culture.
I had come across this tweet and its heartening answers (including someone talking about also feeling like Cassandra!!):
Ever get the feeling your entire society was being psychologically prepped?
I watched the video by George Monbiot, and felt, ‘This, this speaks to me. And I feel less alone in my ‘Cassandra Syndrome’!’
Monbiot says:
“The oligarchs have discovered the formula for for persuading the poor to vote for the interests of the very rich and that formula includes massive lying and cheating on an unprecedented scale.”
“Any Labour leader putting forward those policies whose aim was to transform this country would have been demonised and ripped apart. The fundamental problem is the incredible grip over our imaginations the billionaire press still exerts combined by highly effective and misleading use of social media. This is a global phenomenon. Something huge has changed.”
“If there is a formula for how to do it, there must also be a formula for how to resist it.”
Defend ourselves from fake news and lies via digital literacy (like Finland has done) – a coalition against fake news
Replace top-down politics by ‘political rewilding’ – a system that is run and owned by the people – genuine people-owned grassroots politics around the world – at the municipal level – success becomes contagious between local authorities – ‘and then it’s much harder for the oligarchs to get a grip over political life’. [LSAs… – local consultative assemblies]
Attend to the short term crisis faced in this country caused by continued austerity, exclusion and marginalisation, and the xenophobia, racism and hatred fomented by the Prime Minister and central govt policy (eg hostile environment; targeting Romani Gypsies and travellers) => “So the first thing we need to do is stand in solidarity with everyone who is likely to be victimised by this government. We double down on our efforts to help the people who are being marginalised… No one must be left to face the consequences of this election alone.”
Maintain hope, via the possibility that this election may spark a new conversation about our political system and how it needs to change to become more democratic.
So I’m now working with a few thoughts:
My sense of the new era of consciousness emerging is no longer a weird, kooky concept which I have to keep silent about. Thanks to the forces of ego/darkness – and the internet – for making things so weird that the previously underground, imperceptible ‘signs of the times’ (ty, G) have now become fully visible and are prompting mass awakening.
There are mainstream people acting as ‘resonant archetypes’ (for the Good, the Bad and the Ugly) meaning we have vocal people we can use as anchors for networked thought and action – to a degree we have never seen before.
Arising from this, I realise:
I no longer need to be the binary person I have been for years, hiding my true colours in case it made me unemployable…
I have the opportunity to stand up and be counted amongst those resonating for unity in diversity
I have networks and platforms I can contribute to, safely now
It’s time to speak up and out, because this last election showed (as Monbiot discusses) that the ego-based folks have rolled their frickin’ sleeves up
I have been blogging/journalling privately for years – I could shift out of the cover of privacy and add to the body of text that is pro-unity
I don’t need to share the heart on my sleeve with ‘elegant words‘ – instead I can share ideas, techniques and tools, like a conveyor belt of cool and practicable concepts.
To do this, I may need to give up my journalling here, or rather, shift my writing to the visible, and use my love of writing to perform a helpful function in the world at this time of intense division and need for optimism.
This seems to come under the heading of
Share What I Know or
Share Tools
So now, voice of all True Reason. What sayest you?
As above, we say now it is imperative to share what you know. Since the 11:11 days of your teenage years you have been studying and preparing for the period in which you would serve as a contributor. You have sloughed off a fair degree of expectation, vanity and pride around your writing, and are now more poised to act as a work horse. To be truly of use in this important field, your ‘habitual’ life needs to be as clean, regimented (in the soft, balanced aspie way, not some punishing way) and streamlined as possible. There is a great deal one can contribute, if the focus is there.
Like Shoghi Effendi.
Exactly. He knew his mission. Learn yours well.
Mission 2020: Make mediation mainstream by sharing the tools of consensus, consultation and collaboration.
“Just as the adults in power are shedding responsibility like nothing before, we see young people adopting responsibility. It’s almost like the children are the adults and the adults are the children. The roles have reversed.”
“We have this incredibly powerful and inspiring fightback through self-organised resistance led primarily by young people, and that’s very exciting.”
Share tools with young people, and gain tools from them.
Ah, young people.
Yes. It’s time.
I’m not sure I resonate for them any more.
Then adapt yourself. You will feel all the better for it.
This is your future, this is their future. This is why you were immersed in this world.
Be resonant, with your children’s generation – and let them inform you of what they know, for they are evolved creatures just a step ahead of the times they are currently living in. With humility and happiness, share what you have learnt about mind, body and communication with them – and yes, share the lessons, teachings and tools of the spirit too. Why, to encourage, to empower and to unleash the immense potential in each soul. The True Person does not hoard, but shares for the unfolding evolution of the Earth’s story.
Oh God. You know this is a big thing for me. You really know. I need your blessing on this. I need to know how to communicate mutually with the upcoming generation in a way that is as wholesome, as pure and as selfless as they are. Settle me. May I be found simple enough to do this work. Why don’t I feel welcome? Why do I feel like I would be impinging, and taking liberties. Why do I feel the words ‘Ok, boomer’ busting forth?
Take the role of behind the scenes mentor and encourager, not on-stage preacher. Think of Stormzy’s mentor, Twin B.
I am literally in coils about this….
Relax. Calm down. Step up. We’ve been here before and you wouldn’t go there. This call will not go away.
But there’s so much to learn and understand – these digital natives are in a different world. And my youngest especially would hate me to intrude on this world.
Be not an intruder. You are being there for those who are ready and in need. Be kind enough to be a support to those who need an older ally. Be an outspoken resonant archetype so that your fellow frequency travellers can find you. #PeaceFreq.
It really is as simple as that. Teach what you’ve learnt; have a sense of your community. TRUST us, that while yourGen cannot ‘hear’ you, others (the New Gens) will.
I’m really ashamed and bashful to say this, but I need to work this theme out: I partly turned towards the older generation because they can pay for what I do…
Do not under-estimate the spending power of the next generations. It just looks different, and must be earned via authenticity. Nothing will test your ability to abandon your professional masks, society bollocks and burnout jazzhands more than bringing value to the younger generation. Ok? You asked for freedom from lies, burnout and efforting. This is where that freedom is to be found. Bring respect, humility and purest love.
And remember this from today’s reading:
True Persons do not hoard.
Using all they have for others, they still have more.
Giving all they have to others, they are richer than before.
You have done your time. Give to the next generation all you have: stand in solidarity with them. Do not hoard the learning of your lifetime. Your sharing of tools will encourage them to do their own learning and find their own voice. And breathe a sigh of relief that now, you no longer have to scrape and forelock tug to the grown ups. You are the grown up and you have love in your heart. Resonate, dear archetype.
I am ready to … I am ready to resonate with the frequency of peace… I am ready to stand up and be counted. I am ready to gift all I have to the next bearers of peace, so that they can be skilled, confident and competent – adding to what we have learnt the blessings of their own evolved consciousness.
Remain on the compassion stool – keen to relieve suffering without becoming overcome by empathy. Do what it takes to be useful.
Amen to that. I am ready to be useful… to the new generations. At 45, I’m halfway through a 90 year long life, and it’s time to stop advancing myself, and turn round to support those now doing the advancing. I am ready to stand up, speak up and be useful to the NewGens.
In 2020 may my…
mind: share tools with the Newgens
body: be vibrantly energised
spirit and soul: resonate with the peace frequency (peace, unity, love and light)
relationships: be blessed, wholesome, loving and nourishing
words: be inspired by the highest knowing and wisest insight
habits: be disciplined that I may experience freedom
In 2020 may I stand up, share tools and hold the sovereignty that is my gift from my soul to me. I am free now to answer to my own soul, to rise up to serve the new generations with all my heart, to overthrough my fear of the Other and trust entirely in the sovereign perfection of each human on Earth. In the name of all that is pure, true and holy, and in honour of the highest peak of human experience, I affirm with my heart, body, mind and soul, that…
